Post # 1
Hi everyone! Does anyone have any unique ideas they used for the unity sand or unity candle ceremony? I am trying to research it online and am not coming up with anything. Did anyone do anything different than either of those two things?
One of my best friends put a bottle of wine in a locked box with a love letter written by both her and her husband, and the officiant told them not to open it until they were married for 5 years OR until they were having problems with their marriage and wanted to be reminded why they loved each other (and they could share a nice bottle of wine in the process haha)
I ADORE this idea, but i can’t copy it since they just got married less than a year ago. Thanks everyone!!
Post # 3
I personally don’t think that there’s anything wrong with using this idea- just because it’s more unique to your circle of friends doesn’t mean it’s unique… I’ve heard about this being done in other countries quite often, and I actually considered it for my own wedding as well.
If your concern is that your friend will be upset, talk to her about it. Let her know that you loved it so much, that you would like to do the same for your ceremony.
However, if your concern is that you want to have a ceremony that others won’t expect, there are lots of wedding traditions that you can add to a ceremony that aren’t commonly practiced amongst the majority.
The important part is to pick something that means something to you.
Post # 4
You could still write the love letters but instead of the wine, you could include pics of yourselves, current newspaper clippings etc-like a mini time capsule.
Other ideas are the salt covenant
Indian Wedding Vase Ceremony
Post # 5
Here are a few ideas of things you could do instead of a Unity Candle, Unity Sand, or the Box Ceremony:
You have your guests pass around your rings and bless them prior to exchanging your rings. We had just our immediate family and our bridal party pass them while our officiant said a prayer. Everyone involved liked the idea, and there are some amazing photos of our families blessing our rings.
In short form, the officiant ties your hands together to symbolize your bond. This is one I’ve never seen done at a wedding before, but I’ve heard of it being used often enough.
Extended Sand Ceremony:
This is one that may have been unique to the couple, but they basically had a representative from areas of their life (Both mothers, his family, her family, his friend’s, her friends, officiant to represent God) and each person poured one color of sand that represented something their marriage should have (loyalty, honesty, etc… The officiant’s sand was something religious… God’s love, I think?) and then the couple also poured their own colors of sand.
This was a way of incorporating all facets of their lives.
A cool variation on the sand ceremony- you order glass pieces to use for your ceremony in the colors you want, then after the wedding you send them in and they create a glass sculpture for you. You can also have them create paperweights as keepsakes for the parents.
Post # 6
@tinylittlebird: I love the idea of the unity glass! what an amazing idea and its something you could keep forever! Where did you 1st hear about this?
@julies1949: Also, I love the idea of the time capsule!! Maybe we could do both things? Such good ideas, thanks girls!
Post # 7
My fiance and I were actually talking about that earlier today, and threw around the idea of using our favorite spices instead of sand. That way, we could cap off the jar, and keep the spice mixture in our cabinet later to cook with! We’d each pick one spice to keep it simple. Fortunately, we both like spicy, so it’d probably end up as black pepper and chili powder, which are pretty useful together. Might not work if it’s like, lemon pepper and cinnammon or something… 🙂
Post # 8
@katiee0707: I actually found it on WB… I think it was the guy who started the company who posted the initial thread I saw? Not sure if it’s still up or not, but that’s where I saw it.
I saw it after my own wedding, or I might have done it myself- It’s a bit pricey, but a wonderful keepsake (Plus, the idea of having a jar of sand in my house always bugged me. Oh, the potential mess!)
Also, I think it would be absolutely possible to include both if you wanted, or you could do one during the ceremony and one “Unofficially”.
I had originally planned to do a project similar to the “Happily Ever Afterwords” cards (I think the ones the sell are ugly).
I was going to print postcards through Moo.com with photos of us during our years of dating- 50 postcards in all. Then we were going to give them to guests to write us notes to read on our anniversaries, with the most important years going to important family members and friends (like 50 going to a set of grandparents who were married for 50 years).
Then each one would go in an envelope, and on each anniversary we would not only get to share a memory of us prior to dating, we would also get a bit of advice from a loved one.
Unfortunately, due to time/budget constraints and me just generally being too busy, this project never happened…. but I still love the idea!
Post # 9
@tinylittlebird: Oh, I guess I should mention that the Anniversary Box would have been our “Unofficial” item- we wouldn’t have talked about it during the ceremony, but instead would have displayed it on a table for guests to participate.
While you can include as many customs and ceremonies into a wedding that you like, Darling Husband and I personally tried to keep our ceremony nice and concise.