Post # 1
We are hosting a big (150 people) post-elopement party in July. We’re having open bar, food, flowers, and I am excited!
The venue is located centrally in our town in a big Victorian hotel that has 3-4 doors to the street, at least three of these doors will be open during the event. The venue has made it clear that they need some way to identify our guests as people do come in off the street during large events, it’s a small town and their argument is that they just can’t keep track of who is on the guest list and that they’re responsible for guest safety, etc. etc.
SO, they insist that we have some sot of identifier for people who are on the guest list, I have tried twice to say no, but they just won’t budge so I have to come up with something.
I really do not like the idea, but I do not see anyway around it, I am looking for everyone’s input, I’ve though about flower pins, cloth bracelet, a custom stamp?? And I have been very vocal with saying no, but unfortunately it’s not an option at this point. Thanks in advance.
Post # 2
I think a stamp is your best bet. Most people don’t mind that. Anything else would seem in the way or tacky to me
Post # 3
hockeybee0104 : A stamp could be cute, design a custom one for your wedding theme!
Post # 4
While a stamp seems like it is the cheaper option, how will this be enforced? Is someone going to stand just inside each door giving all invited guests a stamp on their hand as they enter? What happens if a guest is late? What happens when someone washes their hands and washes away the stamp?
I think the best option would be a bracelet attached to the escort card. That way, each guest will have access to their own identifier, and you don’t have to worry about tardy guests. Also, all your hard work won’t be washed down the drain.
Post # 5
I wouldn’t do a pin. Especially if people are wearing dress clothes – I hate poking holes into my clothing.
I’d probably do a rubber/silicone wristband. Easy to buy in bulk (mail ahead of time if you wish – with a few extras if people forget them), stretchy one size fits most, and you can customize them or do a specific color.
Post # 6
I’d be so annoyed by this baloney. It’s a private event and they ought to be treating it like one.
Post # 7
weddingmaven : That’s how I feel 🙁 I am going to try to tell them that they need to have a staff member at the door checking invites if they are so concerned about people coming in.
Post # 8
The venue has stated that this is an issue, and it has happened before. Are YOU not concerned about randoms coming in off the street to your reception? I would be. While identifiers are not ideal, I’d want something easily visible like a bracelet. Yes, it stinks that this is an issue, but per your venue, it IS a problem.
Post # 9
You can order a roll of stickers from Vista print, there are all sorts of design options or something to that effect and people can show/wear it?
Post # 10
jade31 : I would tread carefully with people checking invites at the door. Most people don’t think to bring their invitation along to a wedding, so that can cause all sorts of problems. If you do decide this is what you’re going to do, then I would make sure you reach out to every guest and let them know they will have to bring their invitation with them in order to get in. I think if this were me, I would tell the venue that I will provide something (stickers, stamps, bracelets, etc) the day of for the guests. And then, when the day gets here, “oops! I’m so sorry. I left the (stickers, stamps, bracelets, etc.) at home and I won’t have time to go get them!” 😉🤷🏼♀️ There’s not much they’ll be able to do at that point.
Post # 11
This sounds like a venue problem, not a bride/groom problem. If this is something they require, then they should be the ones to provide you with some sort of identifier, and if it were me, I would tell them as much. You shouldn’t have to shell out more money because their security sucks.
Some pp’s suggested stickers or stamps, which I think could work, but then you run the risk of someone losing their sticker or washin their stamp off accidentally. Maybe you can have those rubber bracelets made as part of your favors that say something cute about the wedding on them? But even then, you’re probably going to have guests who don’t want to wear them. Some guests might find this sort of thing kind of ridiculous.
I think another pp had a good idea about telling the venue you will provide something and then “forgetting” it the day of.
Post # 12
- Wedding: September 2018 - City, State
Don’t let this bum you out, bee, it REALLY isn’t that big a deal. We had our wedding in the garden attached to a brewpub. The venue really wanted a way to identify who had had their ID checked and could access our unlimited open bar since it was a place of business that would still be open (although we were in a private area off to the back.) We talked about getting some of those vinyl wristbands like at a resort pool, but customized with our wedding date:
We didn’t care at all about aesthetics or whether it ruined the “look” of photos or anything silly like that.
In the end, it was a moot point – our party was very small (like 40 people) so the bartenders could easily keep track of who did and did not belong. No one tried to crash. We didn’t end up needing to order them. But if we had, it still would’ve been fine.
Maybe put a wristband matching your wedding colors at each place setting, along with a little note explaining why?