Post # 1
FI and I finally booked our venues and we are over the moon excited to be having a very traditional, Boston wedding. We love our city and it really reflects who we are. When we brought my mom to look at our venue, she loved it, but made a comment about how it was going to be a very traditional wedding. While that doesn’t bother me in the least (deep down, I’m a pretty traditional person), it got FI and me thinking. In fact, a few minutes later, FI commented that while he liked the idea of a traditional wedding, he wanted to include some things at the reception that are unique and a little bit different. I agreed, but unfortunately, neither of us had ANY ideas for what kind of things we’d like to include.
So, Bees, what did you include at your reception (or ceremony) that was unique? What kinds of little “traditions” or “events” did you include that were different than the norm? We already know there are some traditional elements we DON’T want (garter thing, bouquet toss), but we’re at a loss in terms of including things that are fun and different.
FWIW, neither of us really identify with any culture (other than American) or religion.
Post # 2
Hello Annb9, There will be no tossing of the bouquet or anything to do with the garter at our wedding. However, there will be a stone ritual activity during the wedding ceremony. When the guests arrive, they will be invited to take a stone from a heart shaped crystal vase that I bought. Its really nice. Then, after the exchange of vows, of rings and signing of the registry, the officiant will invite the guests to hold the stone in their hands and make a wish for the future of the bride and groom. My best friend will go around the room with the vase and ask people to place their stone in it. FI and I will also add our stone to the heart shaped vase which we will keep for the rest of our lives in souvenir of our special day and special people who attended it.
What I like about the stone ritual part of the wedding ceremony, is that each and every time we will look at the stones in that vase, we will only have a positive feeling about it, knowing each stone represents a beautiful wish that was made just for us by our friends and family.
Post # 3
@annb9, I can relate to you guys. We aren’t having many traditional things and want it to be fun although the venue and “going through the motions” will seem traditional. It’s at a vineyard with the ceremony on the lawn and cocktails/reception in their reception room.
so for us, we love to laugh and have fun, we are having a first look and getting all the pics out of the way, we are walking together down the aisle (second marraige for both so no “giving away”), since we can’t have amplified music, we are having the guest play here comes the bride on kazoos, we are injecting mad lib vows (given with program) and will use some of them before our real vows, then having them play All You Need Is Love on kazoos after, getting a group shot picture with everyone right after the ceremony. (then traditional family pics while the rest go to cocktail hour). Oh and our invitations had mad lib RSVP’s with each guest putting a song suggestions to get them on the dance floor.
At the reception, we have more mad libs in wedding advice, photo booth as guest book, doing the Mission Impossible pictures with each table (on a time limit) instead of a receiving line, playing the Shoe Game, (no father/daughter, mother/son dance, no garter toss/bouquet toss), then having a sparkler send off at the end.
Since it will end around 8pm we are having a Secret After Party with our friends back at the hotel as most of our friends are from out of town and we will stay there as well that night. I honestly can’t wait. I know it’s going to be a blast.
Post # 4
We’re having a traditional wedding but the uniqueness comes from bits that are “us”. Like our cake had a skull on it, we’re serving a Spanish meal (in Manchester with none of us spanish lol) and once the swing band finishes it’s Korn all the way 🙂
Post # 5
annb9: this probably isn’t totally “unique” because I got the idea from Pinterest but we did take it to extremes! We had a family wedding photo taken with both our parents, all four grandparents and four of our great grandparents. Sadly this I’d the only photo from the reception I have but the second is the mockup I did at home. The oldest photos were 1906 & 1910… we even had originals for some (nerves!)
It was a cause of a great deal of discussion! A couple of relatives on DH’s side got married in Salvation Army uniform too so a lot of curiosity about that from my side.
Post # 6
Family wedding photo display that should be… Too hard to edit.
Post # 7
Not really sure if this was that unique but DH and I didn’t like the tradition of guests clinking their glasses for us to kiss so we decided that if guests wanted to see us kiss, they had to get up, take the microphone, sing any part of a song with the word “love” in it and then we’d oblige. It made for great fun, totally surprised at how many people were game to do this and it was a total riot, have many great memories of those spontaneous outbreak of song.
Post # 8
I also didn’t like the bouquet toss so I coordinated with our band that we’d give the bouquet to the longest married couple present. The band started playing a song and asked all the married couples to take the floor, slowly he would call those that have been married more than a year to stay, then more than 3, 5, so on until only DH’s aunt and uncle were on the dancefloor having been married 40+yrs and I went up to them and gave her my bouquet.