- 3 years ago
- Wedding: May 2014
Our wedding day is almost here, yay! So far I’ve handed off most of the tasks to our DOC, we hired her as a vendor and she doesn’t work for the venue. She has been great coordinating everything down to the details I didn’t think of. The thing is at this point I don’t have much tasks left, or could think of, for my bridesmaid other than showing up for the rehearsal and get ready and enjoy the big day. My FSIL is in the bridal party, and will also put the sweet table together – I guess it’s a silly concern I have, but how do I make sure she doesn’t do too much so she could enjoy the day as well?
My main concern is really sure our guests/bridal party doesn’t have to worry since we paid our DOC + 2 of her assistants to ensure the day will go smoothly. I’ve also been working with my DOC for a year and also extensively 45 days before the wedding, so naturally I feel very comfortable and confident that she will take care of everything. I just felt that my FSIL comments about the DOC really bugged me, when I first told her we hired her she was a little taken back. When I told her we would have 3 DOCs for the day, she was saying that three is a little to “excessive”. I’m not sure why she has this negative feeling but I was really hoping that she would be happy and feel relax, knowing that non of the bridal party would have to worry about anything.
So far I’ve asked my FSIL to DIY a few things but nothing much. How should I channel her energy to enjoy the day, so she doesn’t feel like she has to do everything on the day of? I’m just a little concern of her stress level since she did expressed that my BMs weren’t helpful in planning the bach party and shower. I know I shouldn’t feel this way – but at this same time I felt that she was doing so much that I didn’t get a chance to see what my other BMs have done, or bond with other BMs because my FSIL just “get sh*t done”. I truly believe that all BMs have helped out one way or another, but just a different style that my FSIL doesn’t see and felt that they weren’t doing anything.