(Closed) Unity candle is part of the catholic mass? Who lights the tapers and when?

posted 6 years ago in Catholic
Post # 26
1 posts
  • Wedding: May 2014

Just wanted to clarify that the lighting of the unity candle is actually a very important part of the traditional Catholic wedding in some cultures i.e. the Philippines . It’s not a pop culture thing and it wasnt propagated by the soap opera wedding but rather by the Catholic Spanish colonizers centuries ago. I’m having a Filipino-American wedding and including this part along with other Filipino traditions During the ceremony. It symbolizes two individuals becoming one in Christ.

I think it’s nice to keep some traditions as long as it is meaningful to you.



Post # 28
2053 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2013

I asked if I could do a unity candle and my priest said he was ‘strongly against’ it because it’s not based in the traditional catholic marriage sacrament or something like that.  So we didn’t have it.

Post # 29
82 posts
Worker bee

Sorry just noticed the response to my post. We are trying to keep the theatrics to  a minimum at our reception so we dont intend to do it there. I just knew it was in our booklet as a call out so it triggered my response. We are also doing a full nuptual mass so we dont think it fits anyway. 

Not against it just want to get to the party quicker so its enter, eat, toast, husband/wife, father daughter, son mother dances and on to the less scripted shenanigans for us. 

As long as we can keep the moms off their silly baby picture bandwagon we’re happy (they arnt quite grasping that we are both absolutly against some 30 min embarrassing boring slide show) lol

Hope you get to do what you want and congratulations.

Post # 30
68 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

honestly i have not seen a unity candle used in a very long time. i am not using one for ours. 

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