Okay, so I spoke with my organist today to go over the final music list. I wanted to use ‘The Prayer’ as our unity candle lighting song. BUT, she pointed out to me that it is a long song (over 5 mins) and felt like maybe we would feel awkward standing there for that amount of time. Here’s a link if you haven’t heard it….
On one hand I feel like she’s right.
On the other, I feel like it might give us some time to chat to each other…
And I’m honestly not sure what “church approved” song I would like to use other than this one.
Okay, my dear Catholic bees….what song are you using to light your unity candle?
We didn’t do a unity candle or giving flowers to Mary, but maybe if you weren’t planning on doing flowers you could do those too then. Light the candle, then go to the statue of Mary and lay flowers, then just kneel/stand there till its over.
first of all, technically speaking the “unity candle” is not part of a Roman Catholic cermony. Just be sure that your priest is ok with it (most are, but I have heard of brides purchasing the candle and everything before finding out that their priest wouldn’t allow it!)
As for the song you’re talking about, the version I’m listening to has a whole Spanish verse, and it would be REALLY easy to cut that out.
But yeah, the unity candle cermony will really only take like 30 seconds…there’s not exactly any songs that are that short besides “for he’s a jolly good fellow.”
so…yeah, there will probably be awkwardness regardless of what song you choose.
Call it a hunch, but I’m guessing if you are working with and actually being advised by the parish organist about a unity candle ceremony that your church allows it. As does ours…and you’ve shamed me again about sheet I have yet to do for our wedding. Thanks, date twin :/
@2ndtime:That’s what I’m leaning toward. We’ll also have a cantor singning, I guess I should ask both where in the song would be a good place to stop.
@red_rose:I’m three months out and 100% sure we are incorporating the unity candle into our ceremony per our priest. But thanks for the history lesson. Basically the question I was asking was what songs are/did other catholic brides use for their lighting that was church approved. Honestly, I’m not sure it will be awkward with any song, but the “jolly good fellow” reference really wasn’t needed.
@pink.sequins: You are so very perceptive my dear. ;o) Are you having programs made up for your ceremony? And I guess it’s safe to say you haven’t picked a unity candle lighting song yet, eh? lol
@red_rose: Unity candles are not an official part of Catholic ceremonies??? They are a requirement in our parish wedding booklet! The Catholic bookstore here even sells them in their wedding section. You just blew my mind. lol 🙂
We haven’t picked out our music yet! Our priest hasn’t even told us the order of the ceremony yet 😡
@mandi.pitt:Don’t feel bad! There are a lot of practices done in Catholic churches these days that “technically speaking” aren’t a tradition of Catholicism. In each church it’s basically left up to the parish priest’s discretion about what is and isn’t allowed.
You should talk to your priest about getting a booklet that outlines the ceremony. It walks you through the order of everything in the ceremony. Don’t fret! It seems more daunting than it really is. 🙂
@mandi.pitt: Yeah, I’m learning that @Mrs.tobe: is my virtual wedding planner. Since hers is the day before mine, I rely on her to remind me that I’m sooooo far behind 🙂
@Mrs.tobe: Uhhhh, the programs are on the list of things to do during the 2 weeks my Maid/Matron of Honor is on vacay. Joke’s on me! We have the booklet and will start planning our ceremony next month. I’m sure you can provide a template to make this DIY a piece of cake for me – lol!
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