(Closed) Unity Candle? Sand Ceremony? Something else?

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 1997

Maybe –

Ring Warming

Lazzo ceremony

Handfasting ceremony

Living unity ceremony (planting a plant)

Rose ceremony

and 

Wine Ceremony.

That is all I can think of for the moment.

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@RevMic:  would you mind elaborating on what some of these options are 🙂 im very interested!

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2012 - Southern California

Look into the true lovers knot!  That’s what we’re doing :]

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

We are doing a Unity Ceremony using different colored wax beads, the bride and groom each take turns filling a Unity Vase as the recite their chosen vows. We will let the officant add the wick in the middle symbolic of God in the middle of our love holding us together.Our colors is also black and white so this was pretty cool for us.

 

Post # 8
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Bumble Beekeeper

We didn’t do anything like that and I don’t feel like we missed out on anything.  There just wasn’t a “thing” like that that was important to us.  To be honest, I’ve never even been at a wedding where one of these ceremonies was done – and I’ve been to a few weddings!  I know some of the traditions are old and popular, but I’ve only heard about them here on the Bee.  Good luck choosing something you like (but if you can’t, don’t feel badly about leaving it out)! 🙂

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I wanted something a little more than the I Do’s but FI wasn’t into unity candles or sand etc etc.  So after a bit of searching, i came across the thing where you write love letters to eachother before hand and then seal it in a wooden box with a bottle of wine to open on a future anniversary. I loved that idea so much! Especially since FI refused to let us write our vows or anything (he’s too shy to say something he wrote in front of everyone). So it’s a good comprimise.  Plus FI like’s building stuff and I got him excited at the idea of constructing the box himself.

Something like this:

Post # 10
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: October 2012

So i am someone that likes to do things a little different then everyone else….so i have decited to do a Unity Cross……I just love the idea behind it

Post # 11
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

we did a wine box with love letters we wrote prior to the ceremony maybe two weeks before.  there is a place for the wine bottle and glasses.  I put an invitation, and other things to remind me of the wedding in and “locked” it. haha…. we will open it and read the letters of why we love each other every year.  Not when we fight. Not in five years.  Every year we will have this to remind us of why we are married and how i mportant Marriage is.  It will be a year for us in a month, can’t wait!  Everyone at our wedding thought it was quite different and beautiful!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

wow these are all great ideas! 

Post # 13
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I love these ideas!

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

I’m thinking about a ring warming.  You basically pass your bands around the church (like the collection basket would be passed on Sunday) and ask each person to say a prayer or wish for the couple.  So then your rings when the minister puts them on are “carrying” everyones good wishes for you.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I think these additions to the ceremony can be nice, but I certainly don’t miss them when they’re not there. The ceremony itself is about unifying the two people, so additional metaphors for unity really aren’t necessary. 

 

Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 1997

@MAURINA:  I will do my best to explain..

Living unity (planting a plant) 

    Living unity is where you take a plant, usually a long living plant (not an annual type plant). You take an empty pot, a container of dirt, jug of water and the plant. You place the dirt in with the Officiant usually saying something about the ” container is the new home of the relationship. The dirt is the medium in which we allow for the possiblity of a romantic relationship.” Then place the plant in saying “the plant is the beginning of the romantic feelings showing growth”. Then pour the water and something like “the water is the feelings spreading and flitering the love that has developed” is said. Lastly, the whole pot is shown, completed. The cycle of a relationship continues to change, just as this plant will continue to grow and change too.

Ring Warming    Ring warming is a beautiful a sweet way to include everyone at your wedding ceremony. The couples ask their family and friends to bless or put good thoughts and wishes upon the rings. The rings are passed from person to person during the first part of the ceremony. Each person holds them and instills in the rings their thoughts for the happy couple. As it reaches the time for the ring vows, the rings are passed to the ring bearer or best man/woman. This ceremony is to show unity in both the couple and the love of their family and friends.

Wedding Lasso     

The wedding lasso is a cord or beaded double rosary. The couple stands or kneels facing each other holding hands. The lasso is placed over the couple’s heads and rests on their shoulders. Throughout the ceremony this remains on their shoulders as they say their vows.  The lasso is often placed on their shoulders by the Officiant; however this right may be performed by a person or couple that is special or close to Love X and Love O. This ceremony is to show the act of two people uniting in the unity of marriage.

Handfasting      The Handfasting ceremony is another ceremony that shows the couple uniting in the unity of marriage. The couple faces each other and their wrists are bound loosely together. Depending on the ceremony there are two different ways I know to do this part. One way is to have the couple have one ribbon or cord added at a time as they go through the ceremony. As they answer each part a new ribbon or cord is added on. Another way is to choose 4 cords or ribbons and have them added all at the beginning of the ceremony. Staying bound together until the end. 

Rose Ceremony      In  this ritual, Love X and Love O each present one another with their  first gift as a married couple. They each exchange a single long-stem  rosebud as a symbol of their love, and then place them in one vase to  share water. The two flowers use the shared water so the buds can open  into larger blooms. This ceremony is usually preformed just after the  clergy presents the couple, but before the recessional. 

Wine or Sparkling Juice Ceremony     This  is a ceremony that is especially well suited for the vineyard setting  here in Oregon’s Wine Country. In this ceremony the Love X and Love O each  have a small decanter of wine (one – white for the Love X and one – red for  the Love O). They pour wine from their decanters together into a larger  center decanter. By doing so they create a rose (blush). Then the Love O  pours wine from the center carafe into a glass for the Love X. Then the Love X pours a glass for the Love O. Together they toast saying “Now are  lives have become one.” They each take a sip and face their guests. I  will offer glasses and decanters, you must provide the wines. 

I hope that answers your question.

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