(Closed) Unity Candle/ Sand Unity

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
413 posts
Helper bee

It’s your wedding, if you want both, then you should totally do it.  Personally, doing both may be a little much depending on the size of your ceremony?

I like the sand better because it is something that can be used as decor in your home.  Your really never going to do anything with the candle.  (I can say that as the MOB…lol)

My daughter is actually using a picture shadow box that will have the sand poured in it that will allow them to put their wedding photo in.  Just a thought for you!

Post # 4
132 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

We aren’t doing a traditional ceremony but wanted it to be a little longer then the 5 minutes it would be with just our vows.  So we are thinking of doing a unity candle, unity sand and then hand-fasting.  Originally we were going to do the unity sand and hand-fasting but we are having three officiants so we wanted them each to lead a rituals.  I think that as long as your ceremony isn’t too long you can do as many things as you want to.  With all 3 rituals we will still be under a half hour, since we aren’t having any readings.  Our plan is to have the mother’s give us the single lit candles and then have our fathers give us each our sand.  That way all our immediate family is involved (our siblings our are officiants). It’s your wedding so do what you want!

Post # 5
661 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

I’m biased.  I like the sand better for the same reason you do, the display.  plus we’re getting married on the beach (hence me being biased)  lol

Post # 6
858 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

I did the sand, and that is my vote for the two choices that you have. Also, if you happen to be religious, my Brother-In-Law and his wife did this cool thing at their wedding: they had this board with a rope coming from the top and then the sides (a little above the halfway point). Then, someone read someting about unity and being tied together, and keeping God in their lives, as they braided the rope, and it formed a cross. Its also something you can display. 🙂

Post # 7
1844 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

  I would say, do whatever you want! It’s your wedding! 🙂  We were thinking of having a wine box ceremony, but doing it at a point during the reception.

Post # 8
29 posts
  • Wedding: June 2011


we are also thinking of doing the unity sand and having some issues with when to throw it in and where to set up the sand table. 

What songs or readings are you doing?

Post # 9
194 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I was torn on what to do for our wedding.  I finally came across a unity candle set on the davids bridal website.  It’s a clear glass vase that you have inscribed with some verse and your names and wedding date.  it comes with a floating candle. you fill the vase with water – put the floating candle at the top and light that. then, once you take it home you will have a nice vase to put flowers, etc. in instead of a plain ole candle sitting on your shelf collecting dust for years to come.

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