Post # 1
When I mentioned Fiance and I doing the unity candles at our ceremony my mother seemed offended and confused. She said only mothers light the candles, not the bride and groom. ive been catholic my whole life, although never attended a catholic wedding… how does this work? lol
Post # 3
@futureJNS: We had a Catholic wedding, and we had the mothers light the candles… but our church was completely confused by the idea. In fact, there was a funny moment in the middle of the mass when the priest told us to get up and go light the candles, and I pointed to them and they had already been lit! So that’s definitely not the norm down here. That being said, I stole the idea of having the mothers do it from one of my BMs, who had a Catholic wedding in Minnesota. I don’t know if having the mothers do it is the norm at her church or not.
Post # 4
yeah, at every catholic wedding i’ve been to (which is a lot, lol), the mothers have lit the unity candles- but only the smaller ones. the big center candle is lit by the bride & groom. they each take one of the smaller candles and use it to light the bigger one.