(Closed) Unity cross, unity strands, etc.

posted 3 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
1607 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

I like the three strand cord that you braid together and the symbolism of it. But we aren’t going to do any. Many many people don’t see the point of a unity ceremony since the whole ceremony is unity ceremony. 

So if you don’t find something that you like or that speaks to you personally, I would skip it. No one will miss it. 

Post # 3
459 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

Attended a wedding with the braid recently and while I liked the symbolism… her cords were REALLY long. She was braiding forever. 

Post # 4
1663 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

We’re doing a candle ceremony 🙂

Post # 5
13683 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I’m one of those old-school bees who believes that the wedding ceremony is a unity ceremony enough for us.  I didn’t need to pour sand in a cup or light a candle or tie a rope together to show everyone we were uniting our lives.  I personally think these are a bit cheesy

Post # 6
40 posts
  • Wedding: September 2017

We’re doing the candle for our moms. My future Mother-In-Law was disappointed that she wouldn’t get to participate in the ceremony at all and that seemed like the easiest thing to add because she doesn’t want to do a reading. I think we’re using some hold candleholders my parents have

Post # 7
716 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2017

My Fiance and I are HUGE sports fans along with our families. Our particular football teams have had a bit of rivalry in the past which our families have had good “fun” with over the years ;). His team colors are Black and Gold, mine are Blue and Green. He is gonna have black and gold sand, I’ll have blue and green, and we will do a sand ceremony. The resulting color will be ugly as F but it’s really just for the meaning of it, our two families coming together (despite our differences hehe)

Post # 8
2108 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

We did a “unity” tree. We didn’t like some of the more traditional things (just not our style) and saw some friends do a tree and loved it. We now have that tree planted in our back yard. The idea is the tree grows as your relationship grows. I think you should choose something that fits you as a couple. 

Post # 10
7199 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

mrslovebird12 :  I’m one of those who decided the wedding itself was unity enough. However, if we had gone with a unity ceremony, we were considering a DIY version of Unity In Glass. Our photographer’s husband works at a community college and they have a glass blowing studio there. She thought we could source the colored glass beads ourself and then get the glass teacher to make a vase or something for us. We nixed it ultimately, but I still envy people who get them done. 

My cousin did the tree thing. It’s awesome if both your parents own the houses you grew up in AND you’re buying a house and planning to stay there. 

I have friends who did the sand thing and they start to look pretty messed up after a couple moves/falls. I’d definitely want something that was going to stand the test of time and ideally have some sort of use. 

Post # 11
66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2016

We did the three cord ones. Luckily for us DH’s mother is super crafty/handy and made it specially by putting it against a wooden cross. My only advice is to have enough time to practice braiding with another person, ours ended up more as a twist then a braid!

Post # 12
728 posts
Busy bee

We did red and white sand in an hourglass. The colors are DHs favorite sport teams colors and I like the hourglass because it’s a decorative piece in our house not just a jar of sand. I don’t think the unity ceremony is especially necessary but I like the momento.

I was so worried about dropping my glass of sand or spilling sand every where that I didn’t pour as much white as I would’ve liked to so maybe practice first lol


Post # 15
463 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

We did a handfasting for our commitment ceremony. Our minister and her husband made the rope for us. It was braided with blue, purple, and white ribbons to match our outfits. 

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