(Closed) Unity Sand vs. Unity Candle

posted 8 years ago in Catholic
Post # 3
269 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

The unity candle itself isn’t technically part of the Catholic ceremony although people do add it on. It would be somehting to ask the priest that was going to marry you.

Post # 4
80 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2010

@ Oct910Bride – With all due respect, the Catholic Church typically does not do the “unity sand”. This is more or less a Protestant tradition which has been implemented. The reason is as such… In our Catholic faith, sand bears absolutely no significance and as such, we do not use it.

As for the unity candle, this too is a tradition that has been used by may Protestant churches to represent the two individuals becoming one. Again, the catholic Church does not perform this tradition, however, if unity candles are to be used, they are used in a totally different way.  In a Catholic mass, if one uses candles then the following is what is typically done.

The mothers (of bride and groom) will light the candles from the flame of the large Pascal candle (candle used at baptisms and confirmations).

The reasoning behind this is that GOD is the light, and from the Pascal candle, the two getting married receive the light into their lives.  So in comparison, in Protestant service, the light represents the individuals uniting as one… where in the Catholic mass, the candles represent GOD giving light to those getting married.

Hope this helps… GOD BLESS…

Post # 5
2821 posts
Sugar bee

The priest who married us suggested we not do either unity candle or sand but was willing to have them as part of the ceremony if we really wanted to.  So you might meet a bit of resistance as I’ve heard a few other people lately where the priest really was not a fan of the unity candle.  So neither one are traditions of the church so they’d probably be more worried about any mess sand might make than be concered with sand vs candle.  Our priest just thought the candle served as a distraction so I’d just go in ready with an explanation if it’s something you really want. 

Post # 6
326 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2010

In my experience, our priest was very reluctant and unwilling to add anything on to our ceremony that had Protestant undertones.  And he was very lenient in many ways, but that was the one thing he wouldn’t budge on and I don’t really blame him.  That goes for the unity candle, sand ceremony, the father “giving” the bride away, etc.  It doesn’t hurt to ask tho, your priest may be okay with those themes and it is usually up to the priest to decide!

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