(Closed) Unity Symbols– No candles :(

posted 7 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
1542 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

I’ve heard of a tying the knot ceremony: the couple braids 3 strings symbolizing the bride, the groom and their life together.

There’s also te wine box ceremony, although it’s not like the candle and sand ceremonies there’s this bonding essence in it.

Post # 4
4 posts

@danielle2bcook: I dont know if you are religous at all but I really like the Unity Cross!! I’ve been to several weddings that did the sand or the candle. The candle always blew out which left them pretending to light it. It was silly. As for the sand my married friends have it stowed away in their closet becuase it doesnt match there decor. If you are religious I would deff look into the unity cross! 🙂


Post # 5
2157 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I don’t know how traditional you two are, but I’ve seen a unity cocktail done, where each of you have a tasty liquor of choice, you mix them and each have a sip from your new drink

Post # 6
359 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I am doing a sand ceremony thing at the request of my mother. She wanted to do a unity candle but the wedding is outside so that wont work. I have also heard of a wine ceremony where the couple mixes two different wines and then drinks it.

Post # 7
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

@adnama: Wow, this is a great idea! I haven’t heard about it before but that’s something I would totaly love to do!

Other ideas I have heard about are:

  • finishing a painting/puzzle/mosaic (and haging it in your home afterward)
  • plant a tree/other plant together
  • using sugar and ground cinnamon instead of the sand (and than giving the cinnamon sugar as part of the favor – sharing your love with everyone – sweet!)
  • something called “Truce Bell” – you ring the bell together, on the happiest day of the couple’s lives and then it is placed in your home. If you start to fight, you can ring the truce bell, reminding you of that happiness and helping you to solve your problem.
  • eating some small treat together – symbolizes you will share everything from this moment on

This is a fun thread! Keep the ideas coming 🙂

Post # 8
533 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

We did an Irish handfasting as part of our ceremony, and have the ribbon from it hanging in our bedroom with our wedding photo’s.  I have also seen the sand ceremony done at weddings… and the couple were smart and chose sand colours that would fit in with their livingroom/bedroom.

@Vlcatko – LOVE, LOVE, LOVE your ideas!!!! Truce Bell – so cool!

Post # 9
515 posts
Busy bee

I have only ever seen/heard of the candles and sand (until now) so I don’t have much to offer. But my Fiance would love to do a unity cocktail! Haha, I’m definitely going to tell him about it.

The cinnamon and sugar thing sounds like it would smell good 🙂

Post # 10
2305 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

My brother did a water cermony instead of a sand cermony, where they each poured water that had been colored with food coloring (i think. it may have been something else), hers was yellow, his was blue, and they combined to make green. It was the colors of their wedding, and was a cute thing to do. They couldn’t keep it, unlike the sand jar thing, but I still liked it.


Post # 11
315 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 1997

Unity celebrations I have in done in my ceremonies.

  • Wedding Lasso
  • Handfasting
  • Sand Ceremony
  • Rose Ceremony
  • Wine or Sparkling Juice Ceremony

All of these can be either religious or non-religious. The wording of each celebration can be changed as you need it, just be creative.


Post # 12
2183 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: November 2011 - Florida Aquarium

We did sand, and I think it was awesome. Candles burn out, so I’ve never really understood that one. We got a set from Etsy that has our names and date etched in the vessels. We have it on display in our house. The “ceremony” we used was sweet, too.

Post # 13
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: March 2012

We are still figuring out logistics on this one, but we will be doing a spin on the handfasting. We will have out hands blessed and then we will imprint them in cement so we can have a reminder of how our hands were filled with love on our wedding day.

We will have to make sure I don’t get cement on my dress and I don’t want it to dry out before we get to that part of the ceremony, but I am excited about it. It is different, but still goes with a wedding.

Post # 14
2065 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

We did the wine box/love letter ceremony. We don’t really like the unity candle and sand just made me think of the crafts I used to make when I was a kid. We also considered handfasting but I was ultimately worried about being too nervous, my hand shaking, getting the cords tangled, etc. And hey, every wedding ceremony needs to involve a hammer! :p

Post # 15
11166 posts
Sugar Beekeeper

I really like the idea of planting a tree or other plant together. Anyone know the logistics of this? It is a fun option.

Post # 16
220 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Sunray2389:  did you do the unity cross ceremony?

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