Post # 1
There are two people I wanted at my shower but my mom/MOH were afraid to invite them because of a divorce situation. Their presence would anger two other people there. Both people are really nice and are friendly with the rest of my FI’s family. Anyway they have found out about the shower from my FI’s relatives (who talked openly about it not knowing they weren’t invited) and they are apparently feeling hurt. I feel terrible about this! Anyone else have this kind of situation?
Post # 3
I don’t have this kind of situation yet, but I am sure I will when the time comes for my shower and wedding. Sorry you’re going through this =/
Post # 4
what is even more embarrassing is that some of the shower guests (from out of town) are staying overnight with one of the ladies who is not invited.
Post # 5
can you have a second shower, or maybe even just a brunch that you can invite them to? maybe if you politely explained that you thought that they would be uncomfortable at the shower, and then invited them to dinner or maybe to a special wedding related event like cake tasting or something like that?
Post # 6
I am so tired of the drama… it feels like the wedding is about everyone else but us. I don’t like hurting the feelings of people who have been kind to me just because some other people’s feelings are considered more important. Sometimes I wish we had just eloped!
Post # 7
@marylandgirl: Can you just invite them late, and explain why you didn’t initially? If it wouldn’t cause a scene, I would invite them both anyway — uncomfortable or not.
Post # 8
Ugh – so sorry you’re dealing with this! Maybe take the ladies out for drinks as a fun “non-shower”. Honestly, my bridal shower was the worst, most stressful part of the wedding. Hope things get better for your wedding day!
Post # 9
- Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast
As the bride, it is generally not your role to do the inviting. A shower is thrown for you by someone else. That “someone else” is responsible for deciding who to invite (or not). So my advice is to stay out of it and let the shower host do the explaining.