(Closed) Univited UNWELCOME guests! PLEASE HELP!!!

posted 8 years ago in Family
Post # 3
46604 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

As it is unlikely that he will be fighting with his side of the family, it is up to your other guests to stay calm and not get involved. There will only be fighting if your Fiance, his mother, or others get involved.

It is hard when you obviously don’t want him there, but the reality of the situation is, that if he shows up, just ignore him.

Post # 4
1041 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

Maybe your Fiance should call him and let him know he is not invited. I would suggest security, but i could also see that ending a up in a huge fight between the security gueard and the father or his family. Its kind of messed up that his father’s family cant respect your wishes not to invite him. I hope it all works out though.

Post # 5
169 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

In most towns/cities, you can hire off-duty police officers as security to work any event. The cost is not that high. While working an off-duty job, they can be in uniform (or in plain clothes, if you prefer), are armed and can arrest any trespassers, should it come down to that.

One of these would do wonders for keeping JimBob off of the premises. 



Post # 6
247 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I know an off duty officer is included in my venue’s price. It was only like $100 for 4 hours of his time. I would find one and get him a picture of Jim Bob with instructions that he is not allowed in.

Would you Fiance be willing to talk to his side of the family about what they’re doing? They are showing disrespect to y’all by ingnoring your wishes that he not be invited.

I’m sorry you have to deal with such a sucky situation on such a happy day. Good luck!

Post # 7
116 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

I agree with BRbee. Maybe your Fiance can talk to someone in his side of the family about the issue and your concerns. They should respect what YOU want for YOUR day. Maybe they aren’t even planning on him showing up? Atleast if you find out or talk with them it might calm your worries!

Post # 8
1166 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

I agree with PPs that the first step is to make it clear not just to his father, but his father’s family, that he is not welcome. I would let them all know that you plan to have security, and if he shows up, he will be escorted out. Hopefully that will be enough to make the point, but I would seriously consider actually hiring security to enforce it.

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