- 5 years ago
- Wedding: November 2014
I’m new to the forum. I’ve been lurking about for a while, finding great inspiration, motivation and support just by reading all your posts.
My SO and I have been together for 6 years and a half now, and I have been waiting for a proposal for two years now. I was ready to be proposed to two years ago and he said he would have done it once I got back from my year abroad (which he didn’t). We didn’t mention it because due to bureaucratic reasons that experience ended up being a setback on my studies.
I graduated on the 11th of March and a few days later we left for London on a vacation we had planned since November. Once we came back we would be staying at the apartment we had just moved in together.
We had discussed marriage and kids many times, and he said in January that he was thinking of proposing before the end of the year so that we could get married in 2014. He knows I hate summer weddings so the options would be spring (which is bad timing because he’ll have his doctorate final defense in March/April) and autumn (our anniversary is in November). We discussed it briefly, agreed on autumn and that was it.
We also discussed that he wouldn’t be able to propose before summer for financial reasons. (moving in together, me having to find a job..) I was perfectly ok with that, and knew to relax about that so I could be stressed about my thesis and everything else 😛
But… when we come back from London, I don’t even remember how or when, he grumbles a very disappointed and angry “I was ready to propose in London, but I couldn’t” which completely fries my mind. I was shocked at first, then I metabolized it and got angry at him.
Last week I told him how telling me that made me feel: angry, cheated, and mocked. How could I trust that he was telling the truth about it?
Then he told me the plan: he ordered a champagne bottle and was going to propose to me after we returned from the theatre (I had bought very expensive tickets to see Rowan Atkinson in a play)…but:
1) he ordered a ring from etsy (I can only assume it was the edwardian ring I told him I was obsessed about) and it got lost in the mail, so it never arrived and never returned to the sender. -he decided he was going to propose without a ring and take me ring shopping the following day
2) I got the flu and was sick most of the day before and the day we went to the theatre (fainting in an elevator while we were going there)
so… nothing happened. And he didn’t tell me the whole story until two months later.
Do you know any good luck charm? Anything to get my mojo back?