(Closed) Unmarried co-habitating bees…Groceries–who pays?

posted 7 years ago in Money
  • poll: How do you pay for groceries?
    Alternate shopping trips on a regular basis : (45 votes)
    17 %
    We don't really worry about it : (131 votes)
    49 %
    We shop separately : (9 votes)
    3 %
    Other : (80 votes)
    30 %
  • Post # 3
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2009

    When we were living together as BF/GF – I did most of the grocery shopping too. So after a few months we looked at about what was spent monthly & his half would be subtracted from what I would pay him (he paid all our joint bills & I would write him a check with my portion owed for joint bils.) So in reality, we considered groceries a joint cost.

    Post # 4
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    221 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2012

    We moved in pretty fast.. we even have a joint account and we aren’t even married yet. When it was separate accounts, we would share. We always go to the store together. Usually it was a fight to see who could get their card out the fastest 🙂

    But most of the time we went grocery shopping or target/walmart/macy’s shopping we would use 2 cards and split it or one would pay for one shopping trip and switch it up next time.

    Post # 5
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    1326 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Tre Bella, Mesa, AZ

    We have a joint account that food and rent come out of. We both pay the same amount into it. I don’t really keep track of who eats what or how much it costs.

    Do you buy toiletries when you grocery shop? Women’s toiletries can be way more than men’s. For awhile, I was buying my own beauty products since they were so much more (hair products mostly – Fiance buys the cheapest she can find, and I get TIGI or other expensive brands), but we’ve gotten more conjoined in the last year and after October, we’ll probably stop having separate accounts all together or put much less into them.

    Post # 6
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    271 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2011

    He pays the mortgage, electric, trash, proprane.  I pay for groceries, auto insurance, phone, internet.  

    He makes 3x what I do and had the house before I moved in.

    Post # 7
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    2095 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2011

    We have joined finances so there is no my money your money issues. Taking that our of the equation…. Perhaps shopping at different places would be a solution. I have a family fo 3 and we rarely spend over 250 a month. I also shop without name brands and buy meats when on sale so that makes a big difference too. I think $400 for 2 people is insane and there are definietly ways to cut that cost.

    Post # 8
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    284 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    We track all household bills and receipts (including who paid) in an excel spreadsheet.  Fiance goes through at the end of each month and calculates how much each of us owe. We split all bills 50/50, however, we do not track clothing, personal hygiene products, or dinners out.

    Post # 9
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    7312 posts
    Busy Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011 - Bed & Breakfast

    We have a joint account for all joint expenses.

    Post # 10
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    5668 posts
    Bee Keeper

    @MrsLongcoatPeacoat: That’s what we do. Every other week we alternate. Seems to work pretty well!

    Post # 11
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    1297 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2011

    We lived together for almost 2 years. before we married.  When we moved in, the first thing we did was open up a joint account, for all of our joint expenses, mortagage, food, gas, going out to eat, etc… We each agreed on a set amount to contribute to the joint account when we paid (based on our salaries, Darling Husband makes 3x what I do).

    Post # 12
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    10288 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2011

    We’ve lived together nearly all of our 6.5 year relationship. In the beginning, I would pay for the groceries and some of the utilities and he would cover everything else (he made a lot more than I did). For the last 3-4 years we’ve had joint finances so everything is “ours”. It’s so much easier this way.  

    Post # 13
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    842 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    When we first started living together we would check out separately.  But that kind of annoyed me after a while, because I was the smart one who bought things for dinner (and cooked for him since he can’t cook).  And he was buying mostly lunch and snack stuff.  Eventually we got a joint account and decided how much money to contribute each for household expenses.  I do pay a little bit more, but then I tend to buy more and not worry about whether it’s within budget.  Plus I make more than Fiance.

    Post # 14
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    126 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    We shop whenever we need to and spend about the same monthly for a family of 3. We usually go 1/2 and 1/2 or alternate monthly. He or I will also buy groceries separately on the way home if we know we need something. Its not really one parties responsibility to be accountable for the groceries, its a joint effort. Its not that big of a deal for us because we both work, make good money and live comfortably.

    Post # 15
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    2714 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2012

    Right now we alternate.. We go food shopping every Sunday. One Sunday he pays, the next I pay. But we are opening a joint acct soon so hopefully it will be less of a headache!!

    Post # 16
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    2701 posts
    Sugar bee

    We have a joint account. I make the weekly menu and we go shopping together.

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