(Closed) Unmarried couples need not apply

posted 4 years ago in Waiting
Post # 2
560 posts
Busy bee

That is super annoying, I am so sorry that they are discriminating against you. I have to deal with the same thing with my SO and it drives me crazy. We are also in our 30s and have our whole life together (house, baby, etc) but haven’t decided when we are getting married yet (just not our top priority). Ever since the baby people ask us ALL THE TIME if we are getting married and I say not yet or they ask if he is my fiance and I say no he gets pissed..Well, I don’t have a ring lol. I am not bitter and I don’t need one, but he needs to not get pissed or want to lie when I am telling the truth lol

Post # 3
7520 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Well my ex husband walked out on me after 10 years of marriage- so being a married couple is no guarantee. The landlord is dumb.

Post # 4
1797 posts
Buzzing bee

I’m not sure where you’re located, but familial discrimination is illegal where I’m from, so the landlord cannot legally tell you that he won’t rent his property out to a certain type of family. I’m not sure what you want to do with that information because I know I wouldn’t want to rent from someone who I’ve basically forced to allow me to rent the home since he would probably take it out on you, but perhaps it is worth reporting. 

Post # 5
122 posts
Blushing bee


beetee123:  I’m a lawyer in another jurisdiction but I can almost guarantee that a private person can rent their property to whoever they want. Usually private people aren’t bound by such laws, like a landlord can choose to rent their property only for a female if they so wish.

Post # 6
7358 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2014

movingbee:  +1

in many jurisdictions, landlords who own under a certain amount of properties are exempt from any equal housing laws and can be very selective in choosing their tenants.

Post # 7
1797 posts
Buzzing bee

movingbee:  all I know that here it is illegal to advertise or apply allow certain types of family to rent unless someone is renting just a room in a house. 

Post # 8
3017 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

snowball543:  Are you in the US?  Isn’t discrimiation based on family/marital status illegal!?!?!

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Post # 9
2258 posts
Buzzing bee

It’s not discrimination if it’s a private individual renting out his own property. He has a right to choose who rents from him. It sucks but it’s not illegal.

Post # 10
2511 posts
Sugar bee

Wow that does really suck. You two sound like you’d be amazing tenants. 

I’ll bet this landlord either ends up with an empty property or the worst tenants ever who so happen to be married.

Post # 11
577 posts
Busy bee

I had a friend that used to clean up repossessed houses for a living, and man oh man, you’d be impressed what two people divorcing each other can do to a house out of spite. Being married didn’t keep the bank from having to deal with their mess. 

It is a downer that happened. I can understand how annoying it is to have to live in that in between spot. Most relationships are given more respect when engaged or married. It can be unfair but it’s just how it is. Vent and get it out of your system! That always made me feel better. 

As far as your SO, a lot of men think they have to have a ‘surprise’ proposal, it seems pretty common for rings to sit away so that time ticks by. I don’t think that some guys understand, if a couple has talked about marriage already and bought a ring that the woman knows about, it’s not a surprise anymore, just a countdown clock with no definite end lol. If after the vent everything blows over, I say don’t worry about it. If it still continues to bother you, you might have to find a new way to bring it up with him. 

Post # 12
1643 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

snowball543:  oh gosh. So much going on in your message I want to scream at – no unmarried couples. SERIOUSLY?! Did someone not send me the memo about us still being in the 1950s??!!

You said you want “another child” which makes me presume you have one – is that not commitment enough for your landlord? And why should you have to justify your relationship for a rental anyway?! Eugh


Also, your SO needs to crack your ring out and stop telling porkie pies to the agent 😉

Post # 13
2473 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

Read this: http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/free-books/living-together-book/chapter5-2.html

The majority of states (I’m assuming you’re in the US, sorry if you’re not) do not protect marriage status for renting. However, there are some that do, and include unmarried couples. Specific cities/towns may have their own ordinances.

I’m not certain on the “private landlord” deal some people have brought up. At least where I am, all landlords are held to the same standards regardless of how many places they rent out.

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