(Closed) Unmarried Maid of Honor

posted 8 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Is it wrong to have an unmarried maid of honour?

    Yes

    No

  • Post # 3
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Maybe I’m wrong but isn’t the “maid” title because the woman is unmarried? If they are married, she then becomes “matron” …I think, at least.

    Absolutely NOTHING wrong with an unmarried woman standing up with you!

     

     

     

    Post # 4
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: August 2014

    Maid of honor is and unmarried friend, matron of honor is a married friend…I guess I don’t see what the deal is.

    Post # 5
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    Busy bee

    I think maid if honor is supposed to be unmarried actually. if they are married then it is matron of honor.. i think?

    Post # 6
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    A maid of honour is unmarried, a matron of honour is married.

    It doesn’t matter either way, have whoever you like 🙂

    Post # 7
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    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    @TG123:  A maid of honor is unmarried. Matron of honor is married. I’m having one of each, and it is very common.

    Post # 8
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: May 2014

    @TG123:  The very phrase “maid of honor” means unmarried. “Matron of honor” is for married women. Your mom is being ridiculous.

    Post # 9
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: May 2014 - Madison, WI

    Maid of Honor IS unmarried. A Matron of honor is married. I have seen people mix these up though before…I attended a wedding where the unmarried sister of the bride was in the program as the Matron of Honor.

    Post # 10
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    Busy bee
    • Wedding: April 2015

    I’m having a maid and matron of honor as well. 

    The maid isn’t supposed to be married.

    Post # 11
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: June 2013

    The maid of honor is always unmarried.  She’s your matron of honor if she’s married.  Which is a horrible term.

    Post # 12
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2014

    Maid or matron, marital status doesn’t really matter either way in the grand scheme of things. I mean, if your maid of honor is married, no one is gonna call you out on not having named her “matron” are they?

     

    Post # 13
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    @Eckle:  +1

     

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    @TG123:  I’ve never heard of the requirement to have a married maid/matron of honour. It’s all about who you want to support you and stand up for you… in my opinion at least. It doesn’t matter if they are married or not.

    Post # 14
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    My Maid of Honour is married and i tease her about being a matron, its a much uglier word imo and there really is no reason to differentiate.

    Post # 15
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    Helper bee

    @TG123:  Your mom is wrong. The maid of honor is unmarried. The matron of honor is married. You can have one, both, or neither. 

    Post # 16
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    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: July 2012

    @TG123:  Maid of honor means she’s unmarried. Matron of honor means she married.

    Even though I was married, my friend put me in her programs as a maid of honor though because she doesn’t like the sound of matron of honor and no one batted an eyelash, but in response to your questions you can most certainly have an unmarried Maid/Matron of Honor.

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