Unmotivated man in my life.

posted 2 years ago in Relationships
Post # 16
8919 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

girlwithadream :  If he’s 19 or under, he might grow up and grow out of it. If he’s over 19, he grew up and grew into it. This is who he is. If you’re not happy with this then you’re not happy with him. I wouldn’t be either, time to move on.

Post # 17
2185 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

Get rid of him!! If you have been contemplating leaving the relationship for years then it is time to move on. 

Post # 18
10938 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

girlwithadream :  

When I was going through my horrific divorce, I met a nice guy, great sense of humor, you just couldn’t not like the guy.  We hung out on weekends, he was my sounding board and became a great friend.  Everyone around us knew he was in love with me.  He knew better than to pressure me in my vulnerable state.  

One night, when we were both slightly tipsy, he finally asked if we were ‘a couple’.

I was totally unprepared for that.  A couple of what?

No, we weren’t.  And we never would be.

He had a good job, but was a total screw up.  His ex wife worked for the same company, they are quite amiable.  She’s younger, but passing him by leaps and bounds.

In his forties, he had never owned a home.  He had no drive to get ahead in a company with plenty of opportunities for growth.  He eventually got fired from that good job and moved across country to live with his parents.  In his fifties.

He really just wants to hang out in friendly bars and focus on his art.  He’s just a Loveable Loser.

Dh came along not long after that discussion and my friend stepped graciously aside.

He’s a sweet guy.  He was there for me. But, I don’t want a project.


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