(Closed) Unnecessarily Worried Loved Ones

posted 8 years ago in Fitness
Post # 3
1854 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I hear you!
My mom is the same with me, to the point where she keeps telling me that I’m too thin and making sure that I eat.

I EAT ALL THE TIME, I eat good foods, and even indulge regularly. I exercise a lot as well. I am at a healthy weight, and could manage to lose like, 15 pounds before I am medically too thin.

Just make sure that you don’t go overboard with the exercising – when we change our habits too fast, we tend to get sick of it not too long after and just quit… You’ll find a good balance.

Best wishes

Post # 4
5263 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2012

I see why they’re concerned – and I see why it’s hard for you! They know your history, and you know that you’re doing this the right way. I think the way to show them that you’re being healthy is to not be defensive, and just keep it up. Tell them that you’re so glad they care about you, and you’d be happy to share your plans with them. Let them know that you’re committed to doing things right this time, and that you love yourself. I think that once they see that you’re still eating, not obsessively limiting yourself/counting every single calorie, they’ll relax. 

Post # 5
756 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I had an eating disorder for more than half of my life, and once I finally regained the ability to eat normally, I bounced from super-thin to overweight again.  My mom makes comments about “finding a diet that works for you” and “losing that weight you’ve been wanting to lose,” but at the same time, I know if I lost more than a few pounds, my family would all start to harp on me not to lose too much.

I don’t know what to tell you to do about your family’s worries, but just know that you are not alone.  It is hard to reconcile the weight you want to be with the weight that other people think you should be.  And it is really difficult to teach your body how to lose weight in a healthy way if you’ve used unhealthy methods in the past.  If you maintain healthy habits, hopefully they will eventually see that you are not doing yourself any harm.


Post # 6
1766 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I applaud you for changing your lifestyle and living healthier!  It feels great, doesn’t it?

That being said, I can also understand your family’s concern.  From no exercise (right?) to 9 hours a week is a drastic change!  All the guidelines say to start slow and build up consistently. Your body needs to get used to it, and you need to build up those muscles you need for endurence.

If you are overdoing it, especially when you first start, you will probably experience fatigue at some point soon, and you will be more prone to injuries.

Is there a chance you can check with your PCP about your exercise habits, or maybe with a trainer at your gym if you go to one?  They will help you to stay on track the right way and get the results you want. There are also plenty of healthy-living websites where you can create and track you work out schedules.  I like http://www.sparkpeople.com/.  They have plenty of advice on all aspects of healthy living. And if you use the customized tracker, they will tell you when you exercise too much or eat too little.


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