Post # 1
I have always struggled with my weight, from the time I was old enough to be excited about clothes I remember my mother telling my to “suck it in”. So when I was a sophomore in high school my parents moved me across the country and I freaked out emotionally. I reacted by drastically losing weight in a very unhealthy manner. ie- not eating. My parents caught on after a year and I was almost dead, and put me in therapy. I snapped out of it pretty quick, and since then I have been so scared to attempt anyting becuase I might slip back into it, that I havent really done anything at all. So now…. with my wedding a year away, I have to learn how to live “normally” For the past week I have been eating healthy and working out 1.5 hours a day, 6 days a week. Things are going great! I am feeling good and positive! unlike my post from a few days ago (weight issues… vent session).
So last night my fiance and my dad sit down with me and tell me they want to have a frank discussion. OK. Here is comes. They are worried about me becuase I changed my habits so fast. AHHHH! I’m doing great though! Im so positive and happy about life! Which, if you all know anything about eating disorders, is the complete opposite feelings I would have if I was sick!
So now… I feel like Im being watched and baby sat like Im a two year old! jeez, I know they love me and they only want whats best for me…. but im not even close to the person I was back then, and I’m doing everything right, not to mention… those thoughts have not even entered my mind!
Frustrating! They encourage me to get healthy, and once I do they want me to stop! Alas…. I know they love me tons, and I am very lucky and greatful for that 🙂
Post # 3
I hear you!
My mom is the same with me, to the point where she keeps telling me that I’m too thin and making sure that I eat.
I EAT ALL THE TIME, I eat good foods, and even indulge regularly. I exercise a lot as well. I am at a healthy weight, and could manage to lose like, 15 pounds before I am medically too thin.
Just make sure that you don’t go overboard with the exercising – when we change our habits too fast, we tend to get sick of it not too long after and just quit… You’ll find a good balance.
Post # 4
I see why they’re concerned – and I see why it’s hard for you! They know your history, and you know that you’re doing this the right way. I think the way to show them that you’re being healthy is to not be defensive, and just keep it up. Tell them that you’re so glad they care about you, and you’d be happy to share your plans with them. Let them know that you’re committed to doing things right this time, and that you love yourself. I think that once they see that you’re still eating, not obsessively limiting yourself/counting every single calorie, they’ll relax.
Post # 5
I had an eating disorder for more than half of my life, and once I finally regained the ability to eat normally, I bounced from super-thin to overweight again. My mom makes comments about “finding a diet that works for you” and “losing that weight you’ve been wanting to lose,” but at the same time, I know if I lost more than a few pounds, my family would all start to harp on me not to lose too much.
I don’t know what to tell you to do about your family’s worries, but just know that you are not alone. It is hard to reconcile the weight you want to be with the weight that other people think you should be. And it is really difficult to teach your body how to lose weight in a healthy way if you’ve used unhealthy methods in the past. If you maintain healthy habits, hopefully they will eventually see that you are not doing yourself any harm.
Post # 6
I applaud you for changing your lifestyle and living healthier! It feels great, doesn’t it?
That being said, I can also understand your family’s concern. From no exercise (right?) to 9 hours a week is a drastic change! All the guidelines say to start slow and build up consistently. Your body needs to get used to it, and you need to build up those muscles you need for endurence.
If you are overdoing it, especially when you first start, you will probably experience fatigue at some point soon, and you will be more prone to injuries.
Is there a chance you can check with your PCP about your exercise habits, or maybe with a trainer at your gym if you go to one? They will help you to stay on track the right way and get the results you want. There are also plenty of healthy-living websites where you can create and track you work out schedules. I like http://www.sparkpeople.com/. They have plenty of advice on all aspects of healthy living. And if you use the customized tracker, they will tell you when you exercise too much or eat too little.