(Closed) Unnecessary drama?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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1293 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

@memo:  I admit I don’t have Facebook. But I feel you could have talked to Lisa before you created this Facebook event. Then after you figured out who you wanted to invite, you could do it all at once. Of course if you post something online, it can get back to people. Kim heard about it and was pissed. I probably would be too. If it’s your party and your friend, you should be able to decide who is coming without asking for permission.

Post # 4
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6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@memo:  Hmm, well I might have just added both ladies and let them figure it out since the issue is between them, but you made it your problem.

 

I guess you could take the higher road and still invite Kim, even though she’s deleted you.

Post # 5
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@memo:  I would not have given Jess the info she was looking for: she wasnt just casually asking about her BFF not being invited, she was fishing for info to feed BACK to her BFF. Friends that play both sides of the fence in something tend to be the kind that don’t mind delivering information you would rather have kept private. 

 

If it would have been me, I would have said “Oh, I’m still working on the guest list” and left it at that.

 

As far as Kim deleting you, it doesnt really sound like she (or Jess for that matter) were awesome folks to begin with. Good ridance to bad rubbish.

Post # 6
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@memo:  That sounds like a childish way to react, but it looks like you two weren’t even that close anyway.

I’ve had instances where friends have had parties and created events pages on Facebook. One time another friend posted on the page that the creator of the page forgot to invite me and some other people…their response was oops, fixing it now, then they invited me. So I realize I wasn’t on the top of the list but who cares? I knew we weren’t too close and that it was other friends who wanted me there…what is there to be offended about?

Post # 7
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892 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

I wouldn’t talk to her about it honestly, if she’s THAT big of a baby, I would be happy to not have her around.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

I think Kim’s feelings were probably hurt and she deleted you.  I think you should have talked to Lisa prior, and not have left someone you call a friend off the list.  I think her reaction was justified, and you were wrong not to do all the invites at once. 

Post # 9
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1691 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Facebook makes it easy for people to act like children.  Who deletes someone over something like this?  Without even talking to them about it! This reminds me of elementary school when someone would decide that you weren’t there friend that day and all of your friends hated you – until tomorrow when you were back to friends and you all hated someone else.

Honestly, Jess doesn’t seem like much of a friend for asking for info and running to Kim.  Neither of them are acting like adults.

Post # 11
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6124 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 2012

@memo:  Maybe good riddance then? 

Post # 13
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Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2013

@memo:  It’s just a crappy situation any time there is drama between friends.  I think that Kim may be more upset because she probably thought that you could have just talked to her about it first.

Post # 14
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7651 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

I am sure once her name wasn’t on the Facebook list for everyone to see, that is when you got shit stirrers who decided to tell Kim she wasn’t invited. I am sure even before you even talked to Jess, Kim was already pissed of. Granted, she didn’t need to delete you like a big pouty baby, but she did. Doesn’t sound like you were that close with her anyway. I wouldn’t waste my time finding out what was said. I wouldn’t doubt that someone told her the truth, but she doesn’t believe it anyway.

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