(Closed) Unnecessary frustration over petty things…

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 4
749 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Well 2 of my BMs waited until the last second to order their dresses and the dress I picked and the 2 other girls ordered had beeb discontinued…they had to order a different dress… I was so mad

Post # 5
200 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I hate to break it to you but it seems almost impossible to avoid wedding drama.

My FH and I are older (he’s 43, I’m 35) and we thought we would plan a low key, no fuss affaire.  We figured since we’re older, people would leave us alone and respect our choices. Boy were we wrong.  The drama started with his mom literally yelling at us for “not including her in the plans”.  But the thing is we hadn’t even start planning anything.  Then the daughter of a friend of the family put it in her head that she was a bridesmaid and my family got mad at us for setting the records straight and telling her that unfortunately she wouldnt be a bridesmaids.  A cousin of mine got really upset at me for not putting his 2 year-old daughter as a flower girl.  But we chose not to have kids in our wedding party.  My mom wants to invite everyone on the planet, including their kids, cats, dogs and neighboors!

One of my bridesmaids, who actually asked me to be a bridesmaid, is being totally distant and uninterested.  She hasnt been to any of the meetings, hasn’t come with us to shop the dresses, doesnt respond to any of the emails I send or return my phone calls.  And on top of that she told me not to expect her to be in the pictures cus she doesnt like being photographed. (I posted about that yesterday actually).  My Maid/Matron of Honor is being EXTREMELY difficult with choosing her dress. 

I listened to what other bees have told me and I basically had “the talk”, with both my bridesmaid and Maid/Matron of Honor.  I gave my Maid/Matron of Honor until the end of the month to choose the dress otherwise I was picking it for her and if she didnt like it, I have a bridesmaid who would be more than happy to step in as Maid/Matron of Honor.  As for the bridesmaid, things are up in the air.  When we ended the conversation, she told me that she will probably step down.  

I hated being “that bride” but sometimes to put an end in the drama, you have to step up and lay down the rules.

Good luck to you and happy wedding (despite the drama)  

Post # 6
85 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

AHHHH the drama. I have a Bridesmaid or Best Man thats been MIA for 3 months. I have her dress and she has yet to come try it on. She never responds to txt or calls. So here is what I am doing.

Come wedding day {54 days to go} If she shows up great I would love to have another guest. If she doesnt show up. Great cuz we are going to have great day. Either way I win because Im to the point in my wedding that I can’t worry about her or her self-inflicted drama.

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