"Unnecessary" wedding items. What did you skip and what did you get?

posted 1 year ago in Decor
Post # 31
243 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2017


Post # 32
2081 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

Wedding is in 3 months. This stuff is so individual, but this is what was important/not important to us. We had an OK budget going, so could afford a few luxuries.

We skipped:

Upgraded chairs, linens, and china (the venue has all white everything and they’re fine);

Extra lighting (we’re using what the venue already has plus votive candles);

Programs (it’s a very quick ceremony with 2 bridesmaids and 2 groomsmen. No flower girl and one baby ring bearer who will be carried by his mom);

Videographer (I know I will never watch it);

Guest book (we’ll never look at it);

Limo or fancy car (we’ll probably Uber it)

Photobooth (I didn’t know so many people got these!)


We DIDN’T skip:

Pre-ceremony champagne (and lemonade) serivce and string quartet

String quartet for ceremony, cocktails, and dinner; Live band for dancing at reception

Full, premium open bar all night

Plated dinner with options for filet mingnon, red snapper, or wild mushroom risotto

Professional flowers for ceremony and dinner

Professional 3-tier cake with fruit and flower decorations

Professional hair and makeup for myself and 2 friends

Fancy heels and flats

2-week honeymoon in Italy right after

Welcome party the night before at a bar

Brunch the morning after

Mani/pedi/spa stuff

Hotel welcome bags

Gifts for wedding party

Mimosas and food for bridal party as we get ready in the morning/afternoon

Engagement shoot

Favors (probably food of some kind)

Wedding lingerie

Hotel reservations at the Ritz the day before, day of, and day after wedding

Uber/Lyft codes for guests to get to wedding if they would like


Still Unsure:

Dessert other than cake. I hate food waste, and I don’t want to go overboard with feeding people. My wedding day is also my good friend’s birthday, so we might have an ice cream cake or something similar for her.

Late night food. We are thinking of getting a popcorn truck to park in front of the venue and guests can grab popcorn as they head home.

After party. We are getting a suite at the Ritz, so we could have a few people who still want to party over there, but then I would have to plan for food and drinks, so not exactly sure how to arrange that. Maybe we could order room service since it probably will only be a few people at most.





Post # 33
752 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: City, State

We’re skipping chair covers, I find yeah they look pretty in an empty room, but once you have bums on seats no one cares or notices.

Im undecided on table centre pieces, again yeah they look pretty in an empty room but once everyone is round the table I find they get in the way and create unsociable atmosphere , you can’t see the people opposite you to chat to. 

Extra room decor, I picked a room I love the venue offer swathes of white fabric to go round at an extra price obviously, but I’m not covering the beautiful wood panelling, it’s why I chose the venue in the first place

videographer, like a PP said, I’m never going to watch it 

cars, venue is a hotel I’ll stay in the bridal suite the night before it’s much cheaper than hiring a car

Post # 34
1263 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

Skipped photobooth, favors, Ceremony programs. None of these were missed!


Things we almost skipped but were booked 2 weeks before wedding: Limo, Real Flowers, and Videographer. Each turned out great and were worth it!

Post # 35
205 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018


chair covers

2nd photographer



full open bar

professional DJ

limo/rental car

chair covers

doing a rehearsal 


fancy cupcake tower with wedding cake on top(gourmet flavors)

great food( filet mignon, statler chicken, shrimp cocktail ect.)

itunes playlist 

beautiful flowers

guitar player for ceremony and cocktail hour

save the dates, invitations and name cards 

wedding favors( candles for the ladies and cigars for the guys)


venue by the ocean 

beer and wine open bar 

professional hair and makeup 

welcome dinner for our of town guests

cookout for wedding party in place of traditional rehearsal 

expensive custom shoes 

David’s bridal dress

mens warehouse rented tux



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