(Closed) unofficial bridesmaid?

posted 5 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
9087 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Seems kind of weird. Are you expecting her to do “Bridesmaid jobs” like throw you a shower and buy a dress and be at your beck and call? If so, I’d just ask her to come as a friend and not ask her to be an “unoffical bridesmaid” because really, that’s kind of a smack in the face IF she’s supposed to be doing all the official duties.

A good friend will do what needs to be done with or without a title.

Post # 4
9139 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

Don’t call it a bridesmaid (especially not an unofficial bridesmaid), just ask her to help you out as your best friend.

Post # 5
7216 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: October 2015

@harris2014:  I’m my BFF’s “unofficial MOH”. She didn’t officially “ask” me, but I’m the only non-related person invited to her semi-elopement and I’ve been doing all the shopping with her for dress fabric, decor, etc. I think it would be cute to give her a little gift.

Post # 6
4524 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@harris2014:  Don’t put “unofficial”  bridesmaid. I wouldnt even make a production at all. When the time comes for you to do all of those “wedding” things, simply call her and let her know how honored you’d be to have her there 🙂 A bride asked me recently to come with her to pick her dress with her and her bridesmaids, even though I am not one 🙂 It is a very nice gesture!

We are not doing parties either, so that’s exactly how I’m going to handle it: “hey good friend, I’d love it if you joined me for ______.”

Post # 7
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@harris2014:  Why not just have her stand up there with you?  It doesn’t have to be even.

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