(Closed) Unofficial bridesmaids?

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

I was in wedding of one of my sorority sisters and she only had her 2 real sisters and then she had like 10 of us that were her close sorority sisters as “honorary bridesmaids.”  We actually walked down the aisle and had a special row that we sat in but we didn’t stand up with her.  Because who has 12 bridesmaids haha  So that could be an option 🙂

Post # 4
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7606 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I’m interested in ideas, too – I have 3 BMs and we’re trying to stick with a very small wedding party BUT it would be great to include FI’s sister some way.  I would have asked her, but she lives on the other side of the country (she’s in Vancouver, we’re in Toronto) and will only be coming here for the actual wedding and won’t be able to participate in any of the other pre-wedding events.

Post # 5
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515 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I am having honorary bridesmaids. They all have the same dress and it’s my accent color. The will walk down together right before the actual wedding party walks in and will sit down behind the parents and grandparents. It’s a nice way to include them. I only have a Matron of Honor, Maid of Honor and Bridesmaid and Jr. Bridesmaid.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

Why can’t you just ask them to be your bridesmaids?  Personally I think the idea of having “tiered” bridesmaids just opens the door for hurt feelings unnecessarily.  I’m not dying to purchase a bridesmaids dress unless I am in the wedding party.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

my H-BM were very understanding and excited with being “Honorary Bridesmaids”, considering my small wedding party. They still walk in before the wedding party and are being honored as “honored guest’ without having to do all the work of the regular bridal party. They were super excited to pick out dresses and everything. I’m sure if your girls are understanding as mine they will support you no matter what. I didn’t originally want them to wear the same dress I gave them a color and decide on it. I sat down and explained to them that I have a small wedding party but since they are special to me I wanted them to have a special role and they accepted. 🙂 .. I saw that post and I’m seriously going to find me someone to be a waterperson 🙂 I’ll probably need a foodperson as well.. I tend to forget to eat when I’m doing alot of stuff, so unless someone says relax and eat I’ll be focused on everyone else and then be hungry and in the line to the ‘cookout” resturant in my wedding dress after… Although that would make and AWESOME wedding picture lol..That’s our favorite pig out resturant lol!!

Post # 9
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Helper bee

There was an episode on say yes to the dress (bridesmaids) a couple weeks ago and she had honorary BMs and I just thought it was kinda weird. Like hey you’re not good enough to be my real Bridesmaid or Best Man but I still want you to wear an expensive dress just because I want to use my wedding day to show off how many friends I have.
I totally understand you wanting to honor them in some way, I just wouldn’t  word it in a way that says ‘not quite good enough.’ Maybe at the end of the program put something like “And a special thanks to Jane and Sue for helping plan the wedding” or something.

Post # 11
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

it’s not about showing how many friends you have but allowing them to be a special part of your day. My H-BM’S Are def not any less important than th Bridesmaid or Best Man but I ‘CANT” have more than the 3 I have up here.  They dont HAVE to wear a dress that you pick out they can by their own dress that fits in their budget, mines just decided they wanted the same dress and it was $50.00 at DB the Bridesmaid or Best Man dresses were $130.00 total with the sash… 

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