(Closed) Unofficially engaged!

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
4755 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

no that is not true. love comes in all shapes and sizes and meaning. To you it meant marriage to some true love doesn’t mean that. Nor does it mean all men truely in love enjoy talking about the future.

Post # 4
3142 posts
Sugar bee


Agreed.  What the OP decribed can also be decribed as the ‘honeymoon phase’.



you don’t want your family members to gossip?  About what?  You getting engaged too soon?

Post # 5
1561 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sometimes a man can truly love a woman and not be ready for marriage.  Or not be ready to talk about the future.  Some men are just like that.  

Post # 6
9824 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Glad you’re happy!

Post # 7
870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@KS240030: It is true that when a man truly loves a woman, committment is not scary at all and a man is not afraid to talk about the future.

No. I know because I really love my Boyfriend or Best Friend but I wasn’t not ready to talk about our future and committment was scary until about 2 years ago. I felt I was too young to know myself and him well enough to take that step. 

People are different and there is no one forumla that is going to equal “true love” for eveyone. 

(Frankly I still feel the same way about babies! I love them to death, and I know I want them, but the idea of actually having one freaks me out!)

Post # 8
792 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

@Taylor4: I agree with you there – the first year and a half of our relationship my OH and I were at university and felt too young and too busy to talk about getting married, then the next six months we were so busy moving to a new city, finding full times jobs and generally settling into our new life that we didn’t talk about it, it didn’t mean we didn’t love each other like crazy. It’s only now that I feel that we are ‘waiting’.

Post # 10
2892 posts
Sugar bee

Congrats! This is very exciting news! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 11
3296 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013 - An amazing non-profit retreat

OP, I’m not really sure why you’re getting snarky comments from some of the bees. This place sometimes is just a drama fest waiting to happen. 

Anyways, I am happy for you, and I agree with waiting at least a year before engagement.

Post # 13
215 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Ladies, remember that we all have our different opinions on what love means to us, and that’s completely cool!  We’d all be boring if we were the same. ๐Ÿ˜›


Congratulations on your unofficial engagement!  I am unofficially engaged as well, and quite honestly, when I was deemed as such, that’s when I got REALLY antsy!  EEP!  Just keep yourself busy and have a great time enjoying not having the stress of planning the perfect wedding just quite yet! ๐Ÿ˜›  Blessings!

Post # 14
273 posts
Helper bee

Honeymoon Phase !! 100% :D…..nothing wrong with it at all and congratulations! I just remember the first year me and my bf were dating (i thought nobody had a love like we had), then you go through the period where you realize nobody is perfect, then you come to terms with it and love eachother even with all the faults!

I only think people were making snarky remarks because she wrote:

“It is true that when a man truly loves a woman, committment is not scary at all and a man is not afraid to talk about the future.”

while of course we know this is obviously not true, and that there are many other factors that come into play when two people make the decision to commit to eachother–some people don’t necessary feel the “rush” to get married (for whatever reason whether it be financial, time and place in life etc), other people may be more impulsive…just depends on the couple and doesn’t define whether or not your man “truly” loves you.

Post # 15
4014 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2013


Post # 16
5009 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

@smiles731: In defence of “the honeymoon phase”, we just passed two and a half years and I don’t love him any less than I did on day one. Heck! We’re still as nauseating as we ever were. For some people the honeymoon phase goes on forever.

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