(Closed) Unofficially engaged?

posted 8 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
3521 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2010

 My take on it is this: Once you and your partner decide to get married, you are officially engaged–even if there’s no ring or a formal proposal. Congrats! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 4
6394 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: September 2011

I’m with Grape on this one—yay!!! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
7587 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Agreed. Fiance told me in January that we should start planning if I wanted a winter wedding (which I had mentioned prior) because he didn’t want to have to wait 2 years to get married. At the end of February he proposed. I felt engaged, I didn’t tell people because I didn’t want them to be like “where’s the ring”, but I still think it counts


Post # 7
188 posts
Blushing bee

Yay! I’m also “unofficially engaged” and the ring is on it’s way. So I”m ringless and in full on planning mode! It feels weird because it’s not how I expected it would happen, but I’m soooooo excited.

Post # 8
1056 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I’m with yaneres!!  I’m not OFFICIALLY engaged yet either, but in full planning mode and the ring is bought just waiting on it!! ๐Ÿ™



Post # 9
2317 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: January 2012

I agree, and I feel like  we’re in the same position. While you may not have a ring on your finger I say you’re engaged. By definition technically I guess I am to and it makes me want to jump up and down with you!

I think the proposal and ring would just be the icing on the cake, plus it’s exciting to get to officially share the news too.

Post # 10
5657 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: February 2012

I’m sort of “unofficially” engaged too. It kind of sucks, but it’s kind of nice aswell.

We live together, we work together, we just recently got a dog, we just finished setting up the Christmas tree and decorations… we feel like a real family lol. We’ve also bought the stone for our e-ring which we’ll be setting soon and we’ve discussed many details about our wedding and future together beyond that. I even know pretty much when he is going to propose to me.

In a way, it seems really silly that we’re not just telling everyone we’re engaged. It’s also kind of frustrating. I feel like I can’t really plan until I have a ring on my finger and we actually start telling people we’re official even though we’ve already decided that we are getting married next year. He’s traditional, so he wants to propose to me “properly” before I can call him my fiance.

At the same time, it’s really nice to be this close to him. Everyday I grow to love him more. I try to just cherish the moment.

Post # 11
633 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2011

We are kind of unofficially engaged as well. We have been looking at rings extensively lately, talking about dates, and have even filed for a fiance visa. I am just waiting for the ring to be on my finger and a formal “will you marry me” before I announce it. I just want to announce it already, but feel weird doing it with no ring and it not being “official” i.e. traditional. I still haven’t done any extensive planning, just some preliminaries, bc I don’t want to jinx anything (call me superstitious..)

Post # 12
5398 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Sounds like you’re engaged to me…congrats! ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 13
797 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

Congrats on your “unofficial” engagement, I can’t wait to hear what he has up his sleeve.  And that’s really neat about his mom giving yall some land so you can build your own house, I would love to be able to do that.  Good luck with building and your future official proposal!!

Post # 14
95 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

I am in the exact same position. Months ago we thoroughly discussed it and decided we definitely wanted to marry each other. The past few months we have set a date, told some friends and family of our plan and even started some of the planning, but some people don’t believe us because I dont have a ring. It is so frustrating!!! I worked with a jewler to design my own ring and went yesterday for my final fitting, and even though in my world we are actually engaged i am SOOO excited for the official proposal Laughing Sometimes I just have to remember that the people who doubt what we have don’t matter. The two of us know that we have a commitment to marry each other and in my book that is being engaged. Congratulations to you and your engagement!

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