- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2014
I was just transferred to another department at my work, and since the office building is big, I no longer am able to share lunch with my previous colleagues. Now, in this new department, there are 5 people my age, and my supervisor introduced us and nudged us to have lunch together. These 5 people have a tradition of eating in the cafeteria, and then playing cards for about 40 minutes. Not really my thing, I’m not much of a card player, and I would rather eat, then read a book, or go back to my desk and browse or do my own thing. I also don’t really enjoy talking with them, it seems as if we have absolutely nothing in common. I would try to talk about movies, or recent stories I heard on the news, and they seem absolutely disinterested, even in a rude way. One of the girls even ignored one of my questions, when I asked her if they saw the recent blockbuster in theatres. With my previous co coworkers, they were all slightly older, and we would talk about so many interesting things! We would swap recipes, talk books, movies, music, culture, the world, etc. And it was very fun! Anyway, long story short, today, after I ate my lunch with my new co-workers, they pulled out a card deck, and I politely stood up and said “I’m going to skip out on this game guys. I have another job in the evening and I’m going to use this time to prepare for my meeting and to send out some e-mails.” It’s true, I do have a meeting at my other job tonight. And the slack I got for it!
“You have another JOB?”
Me “Well, yes, I have two more part time jobs actually, in addition to this full time”
Me “Well, I’m thinking about rent, saving for a downpayment and mortage, paying off my student loans, and having good savings. “
“DONT you have a LIFE!?”
“Of course I have a life. I make sure to make time for myself and my fiancé.”
“Wow, you have PROBLEMS!”
Me, already fuming, “Well, to be honest, I rather enjoy it, I like being busy and occupying myself with new challenges, and meeting great professional people along the way. Plus, extra money doesn’t hurt”.
“I don’t understand why you just don’t get a higher paying job”
Me: “If only it was that easy, huh?”
And I walked away.
They WAY they threw their questions was like they were in attack mode. The attitude was very negative. They were rude, and obnoxious. And throughout the time I’ve been with this company, I always experienced very positive feedback and communication from my co-workers. Usually when other people hear that I have 3 sources of employment, and see that I am upbeat and positive and happy, they usually applaud me! And today, I felt like I had to EXPLAIN my self to these people…. and feel bad about my situation!? WTF?
My question is, how can I gently pull away from them, without causing any office drama? I don’t want to eat lunch with these people anymore.
Please help. Thank you for your advice.
Love you all.