(Closed) Unplugged ceremony??

posted 5 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 2
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

This is a controversial topic, FYI. 

No, I didn’t and don’t think they are necessary. It seems rude to try to control adults. Many people like having their own personal photos of the day and the average guest doesn’t have access to your pro photos. I had zero issues with people getting their cameras or bodies in the way in their quest to have the perfect photo. Also, some of my guests got some really awesome photos and angles I wouldn’t have otherwise. Professional photographers should be good enough to know how to work around people. 

Post # 3
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Personally, I am not a fan.  If I am attending your wedding, I am probably fond of you, and might like to snap a quick photo.  The unplugged ceremony comes across as preachy and demanding to me.  As an adult who has interacted in social events before, I know how to quickly take a photo without ruining your entire wedding.  

There are a couple over used photos that’ll show someone taking a picture with an iPad, or a washed out couple, or whatever that will inevitably be posted here.  I have literally never seen anyone use an ipad to take photos at a wedding.  I hired a professional protographer who knows how to work with the light.  As a professional, my photographer was able to work with people taking photos without demanding they put their cameras away.

My wedding ceremony was in a circle — meaning, from whatever angle the photographer shot, there were guests in the background.  I pulled up my photos once when this issue came up before, and there is not one single photo of the several hundred I received of my ceremony where a guest had a camera up in front of their face.  

My personal opinion is that adults are able to act like adults and don’t need to be ordered to put away their cameras.  If you want to make a quick announcement before the ceremony, I suppose that’s one thing, but those cutesy written statements in programs or on signs at the entrance make my eyes roll so hard I get a headache. 

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I hate them lol. Also, reading how many people don’t get/like their wedding pics, there’s no way I’d ever do one.

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: January 2017

I will be having an unplugged ceremony. We are paying for a professional photographer and videographer, and I would rather see my guests faces than their phones. More than welcome to take photos before I arrive, or once the ceremony has concluded, but I would much rather everyone enjoy the ceremony rather than taking photos. I will ensure that all photos are distibuted once we have received them from the photographer. We won’t make it a big deal, the celebrant is going to say something small at the beginning before I enter to say that the bride and groom has requested that no photos are taken. 

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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mzxri :  I posted something similar a few months ago but I admittedly totally went overboard with some of my ideas in my head! I didn’t want iPhones/phones flashings during the first dance either. I’ve since give up that idea. 

That being said I do still want an unplugged ceremony as well. I was at a wedding where a guest stood up on the pew in order to snap a photo on his iPad. And I saw photos of a HS friend where the bride and groom are being presented at the alter to the church and it’s literally a sea of phones and then them. 

I hear you bee on wanting this. I also totally get the PPs saying it’s not polite to be controlling of adults. Who knows? I think I’m leaning towards a small note in the program?

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

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somathemagical :  just putting this out there…..the people who are polite enough to know when to put their phone down or not stand in the way of the photographer, etc. will listen to your poem or note in the program. The people you are actually worried about are going to do what they want anyways. If they ignore normal social conventions, they are also likely to ignore a small little note. 

I think the least offensive way to ask for people to put their phones away, if you absolutely feel the need to, is to have the pastor make a quick comment before the beginning of the ceremony. It would along with any other housekeeping notes that he would make. 

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2014

I hate them. Not one of my wedding photos was ruined by someone else’s camera. And since my videographer had the wrong date down and did not show up, the only videos i have are from friend’s cameras.  So, I am a huge advocate of trusting your friends and family to be adults and you may even need their pictures or video if something happens. same thing happend 20 years ago at my cousin’s wedding, their videographer did not get a video of the bride going down the aisle  and they borrowed the footage from my dad’s video camera to loop into their wedding video. 

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2017

I’m having an unplugged ceremony but it’s also a catholic mass ceremony so it would be extremely rude if the phones were out anyway. I’m going to have a brief announcement before the ceremony begins and maybe a friendly reminder to put away and turn off all phones and cameras. 

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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chocochai :  Bee… I feel like you are my spirit animal. Thanks for that. 

Post # 12
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I don’t see anything wrong with requesting no photos or videos during the ceremony. You aren’t telling people what to do or impeding their freedom or any other argument I’ve heard. You’re merely stating a preference. It’s like having an adults-only wedding. Will people not like it? Sure. But it’s your ceremony. For anyone who wants a picture, that’s why you hired a photographer. I’m going to request that no one bothers with their phone during the ceremony, and I’ll happily share ceremony pictures with whoever wants them. 

Post # 13
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Buzzing Beekeeper

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mzxri :  I did it and just had the officiant make an announcement before I came in to the ceremony.  Not sure what he said exactly but I heard am laugh so I don’t think people were offended. I have been to weddings where people get in the way of the pro and I didn’t want any issues considering we didn’t have a second shooter. I love that everyone is present in those photos whereas in our first dance shots you see phones and cameras and NO ONE gave me their copies so I don’t even know why they bothered…

Post # 14
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I did an unplugged ceremony by just putting a note in the program. If they listened, great, if not, o well. 

I’m happy I did it and thought it was very reasonable compared to an entire evening unplugged.

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I’m going to give them confetti to throw to distract them. 😉 Hopefully that’ll help and not too many people will be captured taking photos with their iphones in my wedding photos.

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