unplugged Ceremony

posted 2 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 17
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

nancy6223 :  We had our officiant just make an announcement to put phones away before the processional. I also considered a sign but realized that either 1. some people wouldn’t even see it or 2. people would be more inclined to ignore a sign than an official announcement. It worked really well, and the announcement was free!

I agree with you that its very hard not to get caught up in all the cutesy wedding accessories though!

Post # 18
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Busy bee

I didn’t do this and I seriously regret it.

Go for it!!!

Post # 19
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Worker bee

The idea was from the NYT, I forgot:

“Rabbi Joe Black, of Temple Emmanuel in Denver, said that when he’s officiating weddings, he asks the couple when they arrive on the pulpit to turn and face the congregation.

“Then I ask everyone to take out their cameras and cellphones and take pictures,” Rabbi Black said. “The cameras snap away. Then I ask everyone to turn them off and be fully present for the bride and groom.”

Post # 20
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Buzzing bee

My sister did this for her wedding. The officiant asked everyone to not take photos and that there would be an opportunity later and to be fully present for the ceremony. 

Once they were man and wife and had their first kiss the officiant announced them and before they walked down the aisle they invited everyone to take photos. It worked pretty well.

We will be asking our guests to do something similar except we don’t want photos on social media for security reasons for my FH. 

Post # 21
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Busy bee

nancy6223 :  I’m going to make a sign, but our officiant mentioned that it would be best if she made an announcement at the beginning, before the ceremony begins. She said that honestly, some people don’t pay attention to signs and a friendly reminder wouldn’t hurt. I’m all for it!

She going to say something like “As a friendly reminder, the couple has hired a professional photographer to capture all of the moments of their ceremony. The couple would like you to be part of this moment by not taking any pictures or videos. You are welcome to do so during the reception. Thank you for respecting their wishes”

Post # 22
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2017

We ended up putting an unplugged sign up. I didn’t care either way initially, but then our photographer showed us some photos of the bride walking down the aisle, and she couldn’t see the groom because some people stepped in to take pics with their phones. I know that most people with common sense wouldn’t do this, but at that point I didn’t want to take that chance. I don’t regret it. 

Post # 23
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2017

I thought about it for a second but decided against it and I’m so glad i did!  Our guests got some great shots and video that i wouldn’t have had.  Plus it was fun to look the next morning at all the photos on Facebook that my friends posted while we waited for the professional ones.

Post # 24
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

To each their own, but personally I think it is being a bit controlling. Let guests capture their happy moments. It won’t ruin anything for you AND you will have some amazing shots to look at the next day. Some of my favourite shots were taken by my friends.

Post # 25
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

Our officiant just asked people at the beginning to not take photos. Efficient and effective…

Post # 26
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I would respect your request, but I’d give it some major side-eye.  I’m an adult and know how to act, including discreetly taking phots.

FWIW, my ceremony was in a circle, and when I’ve pulled up the pictures, there isn’t a single person taking photos in an offensive manneer (most photos don’t have any cameras, period), and no one used anything bigger than a digital camera or phone to take photos (so no ipads)  

Post # 27
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2016

ours was unplugged, we added a line about it in the ceremony booklet and our pastor mentioned it in the beginning too. My family notoriously has those who jump out into the aisle while the bride is coming down for the “perfect shot”…. Yeah I couldn’t have that. I’m really happy we were unplugged.

Post # 29
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Worker bee

I plan on having an unplugged ceremony, not sure how I’ll go about making it known. It is in church so people may be less inclined to have their cell phones out. It’s sad that we have to ask people to do this because I believe most folks will be discreet and respectful in their picture taking. However there is always one who ruins it for the crowd. At my FI’s sisters wedding, his aunt’s cell phone is in the corner of many photos and in their video. I’d like people to BE in the moment with us rather than trying to save it from behind their phone. They can go wild with pics after we say I do. 

Post # 30
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

we’re not hiring a photographer so we’re encouraging a “plugged in” ceremony lol

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