Post # 1
I have decided that our wedding ceremony that will be unplugged, and am asking that right before and during the ceremony, our guests refrain from using their cameras and social media sites. **this DOES NOT apply to the reception!
i do believe that as the bride, I have the right to say that I do not wish for my small and intimate ceremony be published across others’ Facebook and Instagram accounts for all to see. I know this is a heated topic, but the fact of it is, it’s a private, invite only event that I am paying for, and I do not want guests snapping photos of myself and the bridal party before my groom has even seen me and spreading it across their news feed.
I have put this on our wedding website, and will probably include it as an insert with the invitation as well. How do you feel about the wording, and does it offend you as a guest?
Post # 4
Absolutely no problem for me.
Post # 5
It wouldn’t offend me, I would definitely roll my eyes though. The “truly present” thing always gets me, the only people that need to be present are you, your Fiance and whoever is marrying the two of you
Post # 6
It would not offend me at all. It is your wedding and having guests (especially teenagers) glued to their phones throughout will not look good on the official photos.
Post # 7
@LGenz: +1. Eye roll, but no offense.
Post # 8
not a problem i dont think…I would be tempted to snap a shot at your dress but if you told me not to I wouldnt!
Post # 9
I’m not sure about the wording, but in general I think it’s rude to be snapping shots with phones/cameras during the ceremony. Also, totally rude to post wedding photos on social media sites.
Post # 10
I wouldn’t care at all. I wouldn’t roll my eyes or think something negative either like I’ve seen some bees on other posts say they would.
Post # 11
I’m on both sides – I’m personally not offended, but I’d also never have the gaul to tell my family and friends not to take pictures on what is also a special day for them. If I saw it in a wedding program, I’d probably think it was on the rude side because I don’t think it’s fair to tell adults how to act, but at the same time, I’d understand and respect your wishes.
Post # 12
@LGenz: +1, agreed. My wedding was totally plugged, a million pictures of the ceremony on Facebook by the time we walked into the reception, I loved it and people were still connected and bawling their eyes out at the ceremony. It’s 6 weeks later and I still haven’t gotten my pro pix back and I’m SO happy to have documentation of the ceremony, I would die if I had to wait this long to see a single picture of our first kiss, hehe.
That said, if I were a guest at an unplugged wedding, I would, as LGenz said, it wouldn’t offend me, but I personally may roll my eyes, lol. But your wedding is about you and what you want, as long as your guests are comfortable, fed, with a place to pee, do what you want 🙂
Post # 13
honestly: I wouldn’t listen. I’d still take pictures with my phone but I’d be sneaky about it.
Post # 14
- Wedding: May 2013 - Walt Disney World
I don’t think there is a problem with this at all. When you go to church, do you look at your phone and mess with Facebook/Twitter? No, out of respect. Being present during Mass/service at church is expected. Of course, not all wedding ceremonies are religious (our isn’t) but I feel they are on a similar level. Guests should be respectful of that (be quiet, move crying children to the back, turn off phones, etc.).
Post # 15
I think that’s all kinda common sense during a ceremony that you don’t need to announce it to your guests unless you think they are all that rude
Post # 16
I would do it, but would roll my eyes, as others have said. I think it’s rude to be so controlling about your guests expressions of joy for the two of you.
I’m looking forward to the stream of facebook pictures that will come in right away. I think it’s incredible that we have these technologies available to us now!
We’re getting married in the Catholic Church, so it’s likely the priest will ask everyone to turn their cell phones off during the ceremony. They do it every week at mass. The only thing I care about is no cell phone noise during our ceremony.