(Closed) Unplugged vs Social Media Friendly

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Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

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msmeow13 :  Even if you have an unplugged wedding sign, people are still going to take out their phones to take pictures. No avoiding it. I wouldn’t worry about it, tbh.

If it makes you feel better, I had a guest get out of his chair during the ceremony and stand next to the best man to take pictures of us (which of course, blocked the photographer). We have this ill-mannered fool in our ceremony photos and video because of it.

I was aboslutely livid, but what the hell? I’m still married…and I got over it. lol

Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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msmeow13 : We only had our ceremony unplugged, I thought it was unrealistic to do more than that. No cute signs or anything, our officiant just made an announcement before the processional and everyone listened. At the cake cutting, first dance etc. our photographers still managed to get amazing photos of just us, its their job and they are very used to dodging people with cellphones. As for feeling sad that our guests were just watching via a screen, the thought didn’t even occur to me, I was only thinking about my new husband! We didn’t have a hashtag or snapchat filter or anything like that, even though we got married fairly young (24) I doubt any of our guests would have used them and we hate that sort of thing anyways.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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msmeow13 :  Yes it worked well for us, I thought people were much more inclined to listen to a stern word from our officiant than a sign that they may not see/forget about. Honestly I have found people in our generation to be much more respectful during wedding ceremonies, I had a conversation with my friends about how we would never pull out our phones during a ceremony, whether or not we had been told not to. I found it was my parents generation that was more atrocious and clueless with social media on my wedding day, my aunt actually posted a photo of me in my wedding dress to facebook the morning of! Thank god DH didn’t see it, and I didn’t really care about anyone else seeing it, but I was livid. And my other aunt was the only person who loudly complained several times afterwards about not being “allowed” to photograph our ceremony. So initially I felt like a Grandma too, but it turns out I had to be policing the Grandmas themselves lol

Post # 6
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I think ceremony unplugged only is probably the way to go, especially as those with kids at home or other reason to check phones would need access.  That is where it is most important, and at the reception the main concern would be the dance, cake cutting as you mentioned – so couldr possibly get the request for people taking photos of these to stand back at certain place made by the m.c.  Often the photos of these won’t be interrupted in any case, but of course depends on the layout of the venue.  For my first dance photo to be interrupted someone would have to head across the dance floor itself as it is right on the side. And I wouldn’t worry about others seeing it through a lens – if they are choosing to photograph it more than just watch, is because they value it more in those moments. Overall, I think the candids that you will get of you and other guests and parts of the night will more than make up for any negatives.  

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Busy bee

We are having an unplugged wedding ceremony and the reverend will tell everyone this before I arrive.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee

I understand the wish for an unplugged ceremony, especially in a place of worship.

But an unplugged reception? I think you are dreaming!

Post # 11
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Worker bee

I attended a friend’s wedding and plenty of people took pictures of the entire ceremony. After the wedding the official photographer uploaded the photos and it was really annoying (to me anyway) to see guests standing up and craning over to take photos of the bride coming down the aisle, and there was actually an old man’s head between the couple during the first kiss (he was taking a pic)

I will be having the ceremony unplugged even though I like candid pictures but I don’t want people to get out of their chairs just to get a nice shot! A stern warning from the officiant would probably do the job but I will have reminders in the info card and a cute sign as well just to make it sound nicer. 

I agree with PP; I think the worst offenders would be my parents’ generation. When I was younger they would encourage me to run around and take closeup photos of all the events like cake cutting and speeches. I think they are much more excited to document things themselves as photography is still more a novelty/reserved for special ocassions kind of thing than for us. 

I will probably have a social media friendly reception with hashtags etc, I don’t want the entire day to feel too stuffy! 

Post # 12
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

We just had our celebrant ask people to not take pics at the ceremony. That’s all it took. I didn’t really care about afterwards though. I just felt weird thinking about walking down the aisle with lots of phones pointed at me. 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

I am requesting an unplugged wedding and it annoys me so much to hear stories of so many people blatantly ignoring the wishes of the B&G to get their facebook and instagram hit. I am a reasonably private person, so I have invited all those I want to share the moment with me. I do not want the whole of the wider world to have access to my personal moment committing to my Fiance. I know we live in a techy world, but why does that give people the right to ignore my wishes? (I’m 25, so I also grew up on this stuff).

Post # 14
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

We are not technically doing an unplugged anything.  We are requesting that people don’t step into the aisle, and don’t post pictures of us until we can post pictures of our own.  I understand that this isn’t going to happen, because people don’t care.  But at the same time, I figure I’ll ask, and let people do what they’re going to do.

Our church also makes an announcement before every mass to please silence all cell phones or set them to vibrate.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

Honestly, I feel like I have so much more to worry about on my wedding day than whether or not cell phones are out. I agree that it sucks to have people holding phones in the pictures, but it’s the timeframe we live in. Some day, we’ll be showing our grandchildren our wedding photos and they’ll ask what’s in everyone’s hands (God knows what cell phones will look like in 50 years) and we’ll explain that everyoneeee had an iphone back then and used them alllll the time and it’ll just be another story to tell

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