Post # 1
So nobody I know has done this, but since I am having a much younger crowd at my wedding than most of my friends have had I know it will be a technology field day. I really want them to lock it down for our ceremony- it’ll be no more than 15 minutes.
Are you having/had an unplugged wedding?
What wording did you/are you planning on using? Were their specific precautions you took i.e collecting phones in a safe space, or having an extra announcement by the officiant, etc.
EDIT I need to clarify we are having an outdoor wedding ceremony, so all use of cameras/phones with flash would distract- without flash wouldn’t take.
Post # 3
My big problem with the “unplugged” wedding is… if I’m a guest and you’re not giving me a picture of your wedding as a gift … .how do I have a picture of the event.
Post # 4
Im sorry but can you please tell me what that means? I have never heard of an unplugged wedding??
Post # 5
I get why people want unplugged weddings (guests are more present, not getting in the photographers’ way, etc.), but I would be BEYOND pissed if my cell phone was confiscated at the door.
Post # 6
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
At our wedding, and the one we just went last week, the officiant asked guests to check the ringers on their cell phones.
I wouldn’t keep people from taking photos- your photographer can’t get everything.
Post # 7
@selinak2007: unplugged means no electronics from guests. it mostly applys to them taking pictures so that you don’t have guests on phones in pictures. steping into the asile to get shots etc.
Post # 8
I’m just asking people not to take pictures during the ceremony but begging to take them after the ring change so first kiss and when it all gets exciting please whip those cameras out!
Post # 9
There was a post a few weeks ago. It wasn’t an unplugged wedding, rather, the poster was a Bridesmaid or Best Man and her daughter was a Girlfriend so she had no time to take photos. She was expected to pay $20 per print for any pro photos.
So… will your guests get free wedding photos.?
I think it’s ok to ask guests to refrain from posting photos of the bride and groom to facebook for a few weeks. I don’t think it’s ok to stop them taking photos. Besides, I love the clicking of camerea during the first kiss.
Post # 11
I think it is totally fine to make a reminder in the cermony to please not take pictures so the flash doesn’t interupt the ceremony, and most ceremony locations have rules about that anyway, and to turn off ringers and stuff. But I think you come off a psycho controlling bride to try and take away a bunch of adults cell phones from them or exspect them to not take pictures at the reception.
Post # 12
Yeah to clarify- I’m not stealing your phones. I like to think people are adult enough to adhere to a request. I am in my early twenties and my friends don’t get off their phones even while using the restroom. I just want to find wording for them to not use their phone during our ceremony. They can go batshit during the cocktail/reception as far as I’m concerned. I just really want them to be present for the first 15 minutes of the entire event. They’ll have plenty of memories of the event without getting in their prof’s way during the ceremony I believe…
Post # 13
It may be worth thinking about this from the other side. We had people taking photos throughout the day, during the hour long church ceremony; afterwards, outside the church; during our professional photos with the family; at the cocktail reception and after that at dinner, etc.
From my perspective, it was not distracting at all, and we were so glad to have different perspectives on the day. I like some friends’ photos as much as the professional photos, because they have heart, which makes them special. It was also really sweet that they cared enough to take and share the photos with us.
What everyone says is true, the day goes by so fast, it’s fun to relive the memories when you see your friends’ photos. Hope this helps!
Post # 14
Yeah. I know for a fact I don’t want cameras during our 15 minute outdoor ceremony. We’re in the deep south during the fall. It will be dark and their flashes will be distracting. The end. I am hoping to find wording to articulate this want. I don’t care if they use their cameras the rest of the time. I was just curious if other brides, had tried an unplugged wedding. Thanks for the responses!
Post # 15
Well if it’s just for those 15 minutes it’s not too bad. (To be honest I never pull my camera out during the ceremony anyway, but I know lots of people do). Put a note in the program. Try something which explains why and also reassures them there will be lots of time for photos, like:
“So as not to distract the official photographer and videographer, we ask that guests not take photos during the ceremony. There will be lots of time for photos after the ceremony and during the reception.”
p.s. google for words like this and I’m sure you’ll find a sample somewhere on the web.
Post # 16
@paula1248: Oh like it! Might put it on our board next to our “pick a seat not a side” sign! Thanks!