Post # 1
we are considering having an unplugged wedding ceremony. My Fiance has a huge issue with guests ruining the professional photographers pictures, aka guests being in the background taking pictures as the photographer is taking photos, and he also has an issue with everyone trying to take group shots at the same time as the photographer becuase the group won’t know who to look at when.
I discussed the idea with my mother, who seems to think asking guests not to take photos, is rude. I agree mostly with my Fiance and would rather have everyone there enjoying the moment, and living in it not through their phones, or cameras.
As far as the reception goes we have no issues allowing guests to take photos and be on their phones than.
Thoughts? Surrgestions? I don’t want my guests to be offended by it and don’t want to hurt my mothers feelings.
Post # 3
Meh! No worries! We’re having an unplugged wedding – I really couldn’t care less what everyone else thinks. You shouldn’t either 😉
Post # 4
I’m thinking about it! At least an unplugged ceremony, so that no guests are getting in the way of the shots I rejected 50+ churches just to be allowed to take.
Post # 5
@ANGELaaimt: Totally agree!
OP: Just have your officiant ask people to refrain from taking pictures during the ceremony. If anybody asks after the fact, just say you hired a professional to take the shots, and you’ll be sure the family has access to them. That’s what I’m doing, but I’m actually not allow pictures during the reception until the photographer leaves (she is only staying until about 9:30pm & my reception lasts until midnight).
Post # 6
Yes, take wedding photos of the two of you before the wedding. Take groups shots after the ceremony after the guest tottle off to the reception. As for during the ceremony, the photographer should know how to handle that.
Post # 7
We asked for no one to take photos during the ceremony. Almost everyone complied. Who cares what everyone thinks?
Post # 8
We’re asking that people not take photographs during the ceremony for the reasons you already listed. We have a lot of hobby photographers in our family, so it could be a HUGE issue if we don’t address it. It’s on our wedding website and we’re going to have the officiant state it before the ceremony. If we decide to do programs, it’ll be on there as well. I don’t think it’s rude, just make sure you say it in a polite manner! If you google “unplugged wedding” you can find tons of sample scripts.
Post # 9
For the group shots, everyone should be looking at the person you are paying! Anyway, I have never been to a wedding where the group shots were attended by the guests; they are usually on their way to the reception. During the wedding, I am asking for guests to refrain from using their phones to take and upload photos, the reception is okay. I just don’t want people posting photos of me in my dress before I have the chance. I know it sounds like I am being a bridezilla, but if I am paying someone good money, I don’t want their hard work to be overshadowed. My sister posted a pic of me after I was engaged on FB, without my permission, before I had a chance to say anything! I also want people to be in “the moment” so nothing during ceremony.
Oh, if an overzealous father wants to take pics of his children in my wedding, that is fine!
Post # 10
the issue we have is the ceremony will be at the same location as the reception just outside. And my fiance does not want to do pictures before the ceremony hes more of the tradional I dont want to see you until your walking down the aile.
Post # 11
@MissParrot: I don’t think there is anything wrong with getting your officiant to ask that no electronic devices be used. Our wedding will also have no electronic devices, but we are Catholic, so it makes sense to our guests. I mean, no one would have their phone or camera out during a regular mass, so why would they for a nuptial one? In fact, it was our priest’s decision, not ours.
I suppose my point is that many ceremonies do not allow for pictures during them, so your request does not seem odd or rude to me.
Post # 12
Personally I find it rude especially if the reason you use is telling me how to experience a moment in my life.
Guests like to have photos for their memories so unless you are willing to pay for prints of every single ceremony photo that your guests want then I think it is rude and you should just not invite guests if them ruining photos is of such a concern to you.
Post # 13
I’m all for an unplugged wedding. Mine will be.
My theory is people are way to plugged in these days to begin with, so they can deal without their phone being on, or taking pictues for the short time that I am getting married.
Post # 14
My photographer brought the unplugged idea up and I don’t feel comfortable telling my guests they can’t take any pictures during the ceremony. Especially since, as a guest, I like to take pictures of the ceremony. What I think we are going to do is ask them to not use flash photography and to keep out of the center aisle. Our church is small and there aren’t too many places for the photographer to go and I dont want guests blocking their view down the aisle
Post # 15
@MissParrot: you can tell your guests not to take pictures but guaranteed they’re gonna do it anyway. It’s an event for them also. If you want a private photo shoot that’s between you and your photographer. As for phones, they should absolutely be turned off during the ceremony. That’s common sense.