(Closed) Unplugged wedding ceremony (advice/rant)

posted 4 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 76
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Newbee

We did a modified version, asking people not to use flash photography.  Some of our guests captured fabulous pictures that our photographer did not!  I can see both sides, as we did consider going unplugged.  We decided to see what happened by just asking for no flash photography and had no issues!  I saw plenty of people’s smiling faces (not their phones/cameras), and let’s be honest, I was mainly focused on my husband anyway! 

Post # 77
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

freckles071611:  (shhhh… I don’t believe in the sanctity crap either…. I just thought I’d throw them a bone. P.S. I had a full Catholic mass wedding ceremony and our priest ANNOUNCED TO THE CROWD to get their phones out and ready because he was about to have us kiss! I don’t think a priest would say that if he thought God would be hatin’ on the cell phones but, ya know…)

Post # 78
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Buzzing bee

SoonAsYouCan:  LOL!  I love that your priest did that!  I have been to a wedding where the officiant was like “everyone ready?” and then did the pronouncement.  It was funny and cute.  Yes, getting married is serious, but this is suppose to be a fun and exciting event.  Take pictures, clap, whoop it up.  People need to take the stick out of their butt and relax a bit.  Guess what?  Your wedding will not be perfect because life is not perfect!  Accept it now because it really will rid you of a lot of stress.

Post # 79
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I think it’s ridiculous and self-absorbed…. don’t be that person!

Post # 80
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2016 - World\'s Fair Pavilion

I was at a wedding last year where the person in front me sat with their hand in the air and recorded the entire thing on their iPhone. It was ridiculous.

I don’t think I’ve ever taken my phone out during a ceremony, so I wouldn’t mind at all if I was attending an unplugged wedding. That said, I’m not planning to have an officially unplugged wedding myself. I’m just going to hope my guests are sane adults and will keep their photo-taking to an appropriate level.

Post # 81
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I don’t personally see anything wrong with the unplugged ceremony. We had a sign about our “unplugged” ceremony in the lobby of the venue. One of our craftier family friends made it and did a beautiful job, so it fit in to the rest of the decor. All 140 of our guests were extremely respectful to our request and I did not see a single cell phone in any of our professional pictures. After the ceremony, the phones re-emerged, which was just fine by me.

If I was attending a wedding and was asked to put my phone away during the ceremony, I wouldn’t be offended at all. To me, it’s like being asked to put it away at a movie, play, or any other event. It will give you the peace of mind that no one is going to mess up your pictures and overall experience.

Post # 83
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Buzzing bee

freckles071611:  dude. You’re saying its self centred and self entitled to tell other adults what to do but YOU are telling OP what to do! You also say the trend of telling others what to do is disgusting but you’re basically doing exactly the same thing, but opposite! I personally find your posts to be insulting, rude, and hypocritical. Fact: everyone is entitled to their opinion. Fact: yours is different to the OP. You don’t need to be so bitchy. 

Post # 84
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242 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2015 - Tuscany Falls Banquet Hall

We had an unplugged ceremony. It was actually my church who had this put into effect. At first, I and close family members were upset about it but when it came down to the day everything was fine. Only our photographer and videographer were allowed to take pictures and record during the ceremony. When I look at my pictures from the wedding it was actually refreshing to not see everyone behind their camera. 

Post # 85
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251 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

SoonAsYouCan:  our priest did this as well! Unexpected, but a nice surprise. 

 

Post # 86
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Bumble bee

Our officiant is saying “please silence your cell phones,” (because sometimes I need a reminder lol) “and if you want to take pictures, we ask that you turn off your flash and stay in your seat.” And we’re gonna rope off the aisle so they can’t step into the aisle anyway. I feel like that conveys our wishes without being pushy 

Post # 88
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Bumble bee

It doesn’t need to be cheesy or with signs of anything. Our vicar just said to people to be mindful of their camera use. Most people took the hint being in church and an old family friend chose to video sections of the ceremony which was a lovely touch which we wouldn’t have if we’d been forcefuk. He definitely was present (Which is why the idea of being ‘trulu present’ on some signs makes me want to cry’)

Post # 90
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

ellep91010:  We requested an unplugged ceremony and I’d do it again in a heartbeat. We did have people pissed about it (MIL and an aunt of DH’s). But they literally complained about EVERYTHING, so that’s not saying much LOL. The reasoning behind our request was that we chose not to put our wedding on social media. I know that I can’t control what other people post, but by not allowing cameras/cell phones during the ceremony (and we had a wedding planner nazi enforcing it), our vows were completely private. Only the people we invited to witness it were able to witness it (and, of course, my aunt who couldn’t make it because she’s 95). Everyone was extremely respectful of our request, even if they thought it was stupid.

I personally don’t believe that you are fully present if you are absorbed in your smartphone. Put it away for 20 minutes. YOU’LL LIVE, I PROMISE. There is no reason for our private affairs to become your public moment on Facebook. 

Another reason for our decision – we got married in a church and once the ceremony begins, the photographers were NOT allowed to move. They had to sit in the back, a good 50 feet from my Darling Husband and me. If Mother-In-Law and Crazy Aunt had been craning their cameras into the aisle to get their pictures to get some likes online, my photographer very likely would have missed the look on my DH’s face when I walked down the aisle. Wouldn’t trade that for all the content guests in the world.

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