Post # 1
For a few different reasons, SO and I have decided to have an unplugged wedding. We plan on writing something in the programs/having a small sign outside of the ceremony area informing guests.
There is one concern.
One of SOs aunts likes to take a lot of pictures at wedding ceremonies. She will take a large number of pictures, and then as a gift, she will make them into a albulm/book (like something you would make on Snapfish). She has done this for both of SOs sisters weddings. Should we tell this aunt beforehand that we are having an unplugged ceremony?
I am just worried that she will come ready to make an albulm of everything, and then be upset.
Post # 2
You should add this to her website. I don’t like the idea of singling her out.
Post # 3
akm57 : If your Future Mother-In-Law is on board with this, have her give the aunt a call and casually mention it. That should make the message clear and hopefully prevent hurt feelings if she knows what to expect.
On a side note – while I wish people would be less attached to their phones, I really only think it’s reasonable to ask people to keep their phones off during the ceremony, but not the entire wedding/reception. So be prepared if she wants to snap away during the reception.
Post # 4
I would not single anyone out. Can you have an announcement made preceremony?
Post # 5
- Wedding: September 2017 - Poppy Ridge Golf Course
Have an announcement made by your officiant before ceremony start and put it on your website if you have one. I don’t think its necessary to single her out, if an announcement is made she’ll hear it and hopefully respect your wishes.
Post # 6
I guess you could make an annoucement or place it in the programs.
I will say, some of my favorite photos we got back were candid guest photos and ones that people snapped naturally without the posing for the photographer and “knowing” the photographers are around you shooting various pictures.
I don’t really understand “unplugged” weddings, because it feels like you’re being scolded for something you didn’t even do, and a personalized album actually sounds really nice… but if it’s something you feel very strongly about- I wouldn’t single her out specifically.
Post # 7
fromatoz : Same here! I wanted unplugged but i’m actually really glad people took pictures cause my girlfriend got some of the best shots.
Post # 8
fj2m05 : I should have been clear. The “unplugged” part would only be the ceremony. We will encourage use of phones and cameras during the reception.
Post # 9
fromatoz : Thank you for your advise. This specific aunt (at least at other weddings where she has done this) will stand up in her seat/stand in the aisle to get pictures. I know this would frustrate me to no end…
I have seen the pictures she takes, and they are usually extremely blurry and at awkward angles.
Post # 10
- Wedding: May 2017 - Canvas Event Space
Do you have a website? Put it on there right away so she has an idea up front. Then of course signs and having your officiant reiterate prior to the ceremony.
Will you see her before the wedding or will there be any family functions? If so, that’s a great time to mention it without specifically telling her. When someone asks how the planning is going throw it out there along with some of the other aspects. Even if she’s not there, I’m sure it will get passed along.
But have a response ready in case she is there and asks about it. Something like “Oh! That’s so nice of you! As much as we’d love that, this is one of those things we really envision on our wedding day. Our photographer really recommends it! I’ll send you her blog!” (Assuming your photographer has written a blog post about it… most have lol)
OR if you won’t see her prior, post that (or another) blog about it on your Facebook with the caption “Yes! Love this!” or something along those lines.
Post # 11
Our pastor is just making an announcement before the ceremony.
Post # 12
- Wedding: December 2016 - Presidio Log Cabin
I had a very similar situation, and I asked my dad (her sibling) to mention it to her before the wedding. (She has a tendency to post photos IMMEDIATELY – like mid-ceremony – to social media, which I really didn’t want). We also had our officiant gently remind people before it started.