(Closed) Unplugged Wedding – Would you ignore the bride/groom's wishes?

posted 7 years ago in Technology
  • poll:
    You're not the boss of me, I'll take pictures of you eating and upload them to facebook if I want to : (31 votes)
    6 %
    I'd take some discreet shots when no one was looking : (91 votes)
    18 %
    I'd put my camera away and respect the request : (386 votes)
    76 %
  • Post # 108
    Member
    4 posts
    Wannabee
    • Wedding: October 2013

    I never take photos during wedding ceremonies anyway, so that wouldn’t bother me.

    At the reception, I don’t take photos of cake-cuttings or first dances because, frankly, I don’t care that much.

    But I’d definitely take photos of me and Fiance (or have them taken). Dude, if I went to the effort to get all prettied up, and so did Fiance, I want a photo of it, please!

    Post # 109
    Member
    2949 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @irishphoenix:  THIS!

     

    Another PP said that the point of a wedding is for the guests to have fun. Uh, no. The point of the wedding is for family and friends to come together and celebrate the marriage of the bride and groom. It’s not solely about the couple nor is it solely about the guests, but the sense of entitlement can be detected on both sides.

     

    @Sapphire-Dreamer:  Sadly, I’ve been to a wedding with this happening.

    Post # 110
    Member
    3419 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2014 - Manhattan Church Rec Center

    me too! I was so upset

    Post # 111
    Member
    255 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I find it rude for people to have their cell phones out during the ceremony anyways!  That’s why the bride and groom hired a photographer, you don’t need to do it also.  As for the reception, as long as they don’t care, it’s perfectly fine.  I end up dancing and having too much fun to worry about it, though!

    Post # 112
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    3245 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @irishphoenix:  I wouldn’t take pictures with any device, but I’m definitely not into fancy electronics and constant picture-taking. I do agree that many people might not honor a request for an unplugged wedding, especially now that everyone seems to be SO used to taking constant pictures and videos with their phone or whatever. 

     

    Post # 113
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    3245 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: May 2015

    @Sapphire-Dreamer:  Oh my, me neither. Once I do manage to get married, I think I will have an unplugged ceremony. Or at least do the “turn off your cell phones” request as is done in theaters. I don’t want everyone recording it on their individual devices and seeing a wall of phones and iPad and other electronics staring at me during the ceremony! I wouldn’t mind if a couple people took pictures though (for example, my dad is a photographer, and I know he would take pictures but I doubt he would want to be THE wedding photographer at his own daughter’s wedding).

    Post # 114
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    9817 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: April 2019

    @Sapphire-Dreamer:  that is awful, I would hate that happening. Luckily getting married in a church and I think it has rules about phones, my ceremony will be sacred, I only want photos to be taken by the designated photographers, and videographer. But reception they can take photos all they want as long as they don’t get in the way.

    Post # 115
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    429 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: April 2014

    I’d respect their wishes.  I wasn’t thinking of going that way myself, but I am planning an aquarium ceremony where pictures will be harder to take– the venue will be a bit dark and the camera flashes might reflect off the glass of the tanks, and that’ll definitely screw up a photographer’s work.  Whether or not the request for an unplugged ceremony is unreasonable really depends on the venue.

     

    For the reception, however, it’s a bit picture-whorey and comes across as other people not being good enough to take photos of you.  I couldn’t imagine having an unplugged reception, and I have an actual medical condition that’s aggravated by flashing lights (Tourette Syndrome; the flashes set off a rather embarrassing tic). 

    Post # 116
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    216 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2013

    We went unplugged and it was great! We also brunt disks of the professional photos to send out to family. I’ve been to both types of weddings and generally found the unplugged ones to be a more intemidate family oriented experience with a homey feel. While the others were just like a party, like at a bar. My friend who is a photographer actually had his nose broken by a wequests guest when he was trying to get shot of the bride coming in, it was a big issue, he was bleeding , the bride was crying, the groom punched his uncle in the face for hurting my friend, and the mother of the bride was yelling at them all for ruining everything. So yeah…. This stuff actually happens. 

    I should probably add that anyone who was offended could have stayed home with my blessing But I the end this was a none issue.

    Post # 117
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    930 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I would for the ceremony.

    For the reception I would, but I’d be very annoyed.

    Post # 118
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    1258 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    It’s not my day it’s theirs…So away goes the camera. I am sure the bride agonizes far more about it than I would in not having photos on MY camera.

    Post # 119
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    89 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    I would respect their wishes.

    Depending on where you are getting married, you may be able to get away with just saying that the venue doesn’t allow pictures during the ceremony. This was the case during my brother’s Catholic wedding.

     

    Post # 120
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    360 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: March 2012

    I plan to have a basket for phones during the ceremony. It’s only 30 minutes long!

    While I would like to do the same during the reception, I know this isn’t a realistic expectation, so I will just request that there are no pictures of me or the day put on the internet without my permission. 

    Yes, I would definitely respect another couple’s wishes, and I would probably make someone very uncomfortable if they were near me using their phone/camera aftter they were asked not to. 

    Post # 121
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    1065 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: October 2014

    The wedding is a ritual where two people vow to stay together until death. That is ancient and intensely important. Facebook is not the place for sacred rites. To me, it cheapens the whole thing…reception, fine, that’s a party. But some of you posters have only affirmed my desire to have a small wedding. If you have 200 people at your wedding clearly not all of them love you. Some might even dislike you. They’ll snap shots to put on fb, they get bored, they think snarky things about your color scheme or your dress. I don’t want anyone at my wedding who doesn’t care about me or my Fiance, and if they all care, they’ll be happy to watch the ceremony without getting bored and needing to use their phone.

    Post # 122
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    799 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I am not cavalier enough to take pictures against someone’s wishes but these “unplugged” weddings…. get. over. yourself. Sweet G-d…”please respect this intimate moment” GAG ME. Its your wedding, not the consummation of your marriage. You aren’t beyonce. No one really is sitting at the edge of their seat to see photos of your wedding on facebook.  

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