(Closed) Unpopular Bride :(

posted 6 years ago in Family
Post # 3
Member
3303 posts
Sugar bee

If no one is being happy for you, be happy for yourself! They are the ones that will be missing out- NOT YOU! 

Post # 4
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15 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2012

So sorry they are behaving this way. Just focus on your wedding and on the people who are happy for you. You would not want those negative people with their negative vibes at your wedding anyways. Happy planning ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 5
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1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Aww I’m so sorry for you. I wish we could pick our families but it doesn’t work that way. Try to focus on the fact that you have your moms support and that you are marrying into a supportive family. At the end of the day you’ll be a wife and know the kind of family you want. Work on inventing the family you would like to have. I say that from experience. I came from a lot of disfunction and made every effort to not let that cycle continue. Really the most that you can do is turn it into a positive and only you can do that. Having said all that I really do feel for you. Have a happy wedding ๐Ÿ™‚

Post # 6
Member
1576 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

I only had one relative at my second wedding, my brother. We solved the problem by not having “sides” for the groom/bride. My family pretty much has nothing to do with me and it doesn’t bother me a bit! My good friends are my family!

Enjoy your wedding and don’t let your family bring you down!!!

Post # 8
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944 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

Only my two sisters will be there for me, my father is very ill and cannot travel and my mother is deceased. My friends are my extended family and they will be there for me, that’s what really counts.

Post # 9
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8438 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

I am sorry that you are feeling this way but I was shiocked reading this. The lack of compassion that you seem to have for both your sister and your brother was a bit confronting to me. I honestly was shocked by the line

“Now she just recently told me through email that she doesnt want to be in my wedding because she is depressed and just can’t do it. This has broken my heart on how selfish she is, especially considering she knows she has a problem and refuses to get help.”

Really? Selfish? for having a mental illness? That is harsh!

Was she out of line for saying some bad things to you- sure but can you really say that you have never said a bad word to/about her? I would apologise and say you didn’t mean what you said about her not coming to the wedding at all. After all a wedding is one day and a relationship should hopefully be for life!

As for your brother- well if he hates his ex-wife and you wanted to continue a relationship with her then you really should have asked/informed him before hand. The ex is clearly using it to hurt him (probably saying well you sister likes me more than you and is on my side etc). So yeah I really feel for your brother (unless he commited domestic violence then you might side with his ex).

I also think brides need to realise that invitations are just that and not subpeonas. No one is required to come to your wedding (well except the groom). You can be disappointed that people are not coming but it is unfair to hold it against them and say things like they don’t care. There are millions of reasons why someone would decline an invitation they receive.

Just focus on your day and celebrate with those who are able to make it.

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