(Closed) Unpredictable MIL. Why don’t I learn?!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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443 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

@coconutmellie: all I have to say is, I feel your pain. I avoid conversations with my Mother-In-Law and try to be nice to her whenever we’re together. She flipped her sh*t right before the wedding and said to my Darling Husband “Why doesn’t Allison ever CALL ME!” He was like “THIS IS WHY MOM!” It’s especially hard when your relationship with your own parents is really good. Sucks too when it feels like the drama is intentional. So I guess I have no real advice to give except to avoid Mother-In-Law except when necessary -_- 

Post # 6
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793 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

I understand what you are saying. While I do for the most part get along with FI’s family, they are weird to me a little. I care about them a lot, but they are just really different from my family. My family is a joking family. If we pick on you, we like you, haha. My Fi’s family is not like that. I can’t joke with Fi’s mother because she is super emotional, and won’t get that it’s a joke, and I’m just teasing, but I do this with my own family all the time, and we laugh about it. So it’s weird going into a family that isn’t like my own also. I’m sorry that your Mother-In-Law was rude to you. I hope everything works out.

Post # 8
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870 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

It’s the other way around here. My family hates him and all they do around me is either talk bad about him or complain about something or other. I don’t talk to them much.

Post # 9
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111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@coconutmellie: I feel your pain. In my case, it is intentional bait-and-switch, and she I still haven’t learned! haha. I think it’s because I seriously want a good relationship with her, and she has a terrible relationship with my Fiance. *sigh* It’s a rock and a hard place, and I am in between it.

Post # 10
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218 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: December 2006

My Mother-In-Law will make a comment to me, then make the exact opposite comment to DH!  Example: To Darling Husband she will gush about how much she likes grandchildren and how it would be nice to have some before she dies.  To me she will say, “I hate all children, especially infants. Don’t call me to babysit.”  She does the same thing to his sister, telling my SIL that we “never” invite her over.  However, if we do invite her over, even volunteering to go pick her up and drive her to our house to stay a few days, she always cancels at the very last minute. 

My DH’s father is very seriously mentally ill and refuses medication.  I am starting to think that he is not the only one.  Seriously, my Mother-In-Law actually talks about how she can’t wait for him to die . ..

Post # 12
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111 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@coconutmellie: omg…It’s like my FI’s mother is your husband’s mother. haha. She’s the exact same way. *sigh* Oh well…At least we can pray for optimism.

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