Post # 1
Hello fellow bees so I need some words of wisdom. Today we met with a DJ that Fiance and I both really liked. However, he brought his young daughter to our consultation and I found that a bit unprofessional and she was really rowdy. What do you guys think?
Post # 3
Do you know why he brought her? Is it possible that he didn’t have daycare or an emergency occurred and he had to take care of her?
The thing that I would take note of was how he handled the situation. I’m guessing that you’re thinking that if he couldn’t control his rowdy daughter, how is he going to perform his duties well as a DJ?
Post # 4
That’s one thing yes I’m also worried he’s going to bring her to the wedding. He was talking about bringing her along to do our video montage and it kinda freaked me out cuz I mean we are going to the mountains and how is he gonna do our video and watch her at the same time. Plus she kept kicking my flip flop off and it was just rowdy. It was our consultation and he was talking to her instead of us at some points. IDK if I’m being a bridezilla atm please put me in my place if I am but I just don’t know if this is appropriate behavior. I know he isn’t a single father as he spoke of his wife a bit.
Post # 5
Find someone else. Your wedding is important enough that it should demand the DJ’s full attention.
Post # 7
You’re paying this man WAAAAY too much money for him to think this kind of behavior is ok. There are plenty of other DJs out there willing to be professional and make you happy!
Post # 8
You’re not being a bridezilla. But I would definitely say ‘hey, we need you to focus’ and see us he responds accordingly. By which he should say ‘oh, no problem. My apologies for the misunderstanding.’
Post # 9
Oh my gosh, no. It’s one thing to have a last minute emergency pop up and she needs to come to a meeting (life happens), but it’s another to PLAN on taking her to your wedding. If you like really like him, I would sit down with him and ask him if he can guarantee you that she will not be with him on your wedding day. If he cannot/does not agree to that, find someone else. What work he does on your wedding day is what you will have for the rest of your life, so he needs to be 100% focused- which is impossible even with a perfectly behaved child in a ballroom, much less with a rowdy one in the mountains.
Post # 10
Thanks Ladies! So if I were to tell him I dont want his daughter there how exactly would I say it without sounding harsh?
Post # 11
I would say “We really like you and would like to use you, however, we are understanding that things come up, but we felt distracted by your daughter at the meeting, and we just need reassurance that, since you will be working our event, we will have your full attention and not have any other individuals with you that day”
Post # 13
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
I would keep looking. There are too many DJs out there- as a freelancer, your consultation should have been a top priority for him. Having his daughter there (unless it was a last minute “do you mind if I bring her, or I’ll have to reschedule”) wasn’t professional.
Post # 14
Both my photographer and my officiant brought their unruly children to preliminary meetings.
Before they get a contract, they are not getting paid for the time they meet with potential clients, so paying a babysitter would set them back if they don’t get the job.
Although it was slightly annoying and distracting during the meeting, I point blank made sure they would have appropriate, reliable childcare for the day of.
I would just make it very clear that you would not be ok with having his child there and see if he is still interested.
Post # 15
- Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL
Unprofessional yes. Dealbreaker probably not. Definitely talk to him about it. Just because he cannot control his child doens’t mean he cannot control a crowd; people are different with their kids. I would just address it to see if he has some sort of excuse and then verify that he has a backup plan for childcare so she won’t be attending your wedding with him.
Post # 16
I don’t know about your area, but in my area, there are a lot of wedding vendors, including DJs. With that in mind, unless it was a major emergency (as in he literally found out last minute he had to take her with him or bust), I absolutely wouldn’t consider hiring as the DJ. It seems to be a regular thing with him as he plans to bring her to other wedding-related events (e.g. your video montage). He should be able to coordinate with her mom, family members, drop-in daycare (since apparently she’s not an infant/toddler that can’t be watched for a few hours) or friends. More than half of my vendors (including sole proprietors that owned their own businesses) have children and they seem to understand where the line needed to be drawn.