(Closed) Unprotected sex whilst on the pill?

posted 7 years ago in Intimacy
Post # 92
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I was on the pill and having sex with my now fiance for 6 years without using condoms. He always finished inside me and I never got pregnant. Now I’m off the pill (taking all those hormones for 7-8 years was freaking me out a little) and we use condoms. Been almost a year this way and still no pregnancies *knock on wood*! We’re probably going to wait until about 2 or 3 years after we are married since he is still in school getting his PhD and it will be a while til he completes it.

Post # 93
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

I think I have had sex where a man wore a condom maybe twice in my life. I have been on BC since I became sexually active. The only time I had a scare was when I was a little lazy in getting my refill and was off the pill for about a month. But when I take it properly without ever missing a day, no problems!

Post # 94
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Buzzing bee

Well we don’t have sex yet, because we’re waiting for the wedding night (18 days!!!!!!). But we have talked about it and we won’t be using condoms. And I’m fine with that.

Post # 95
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@OrchidsandCandles:  yes my Bc pill is the only method we use and he usually finishes inside I’m not too worried about it because I take it everyday even tho I know there’s that 1%

Post # 96
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

Being on the pill is not unprotected sex. I never use condoms, and always fely fully on my birth control, and there has never been any problem, and he’s been finishing inside of me a few times a week for the past 5 years. Using a condom is unnecessary whilst on the pill/nuvaring/shot/whatever. It just takes away from the pleasure when you’re already protected!

Post # 97
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: December 2018

@Mrs.KMM:  I’m the same way. I don’t consider it unprotected either. In a commited relationship, I am not worried about STIs.

Post # 98
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

Yep, just the pill…no extra precautions. Why take it if you also have to use condoms/POM? I thought that was the whole point. We’ve had zero problems but I think I’ll have trouble getting pregnant due to some health issues, so I guess that isn’t saying a lot. I missed a day with the pill a couple of times, and I guess my bc wasn’t working for a week or so (too low of a hormone dose…that was a fun visit to the doc), and I still didn’t get pregnant, so that makes me think it’s probably going to be difficult when we want to!

Post # 98
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Wannabee

I have been on birth control for 6 years now. I have had unprotected sex a few times over the years but now with my new boyfriend, we have sex without condoms all of the time. Sometimes he cums inside me, sometimes he pulls out but it goes on or near my vagina. I do not take my pill at the same time everyday and never have. I usually take it at night before bed but sometimes I will take it in the morning if I think I will be out late or forget about it. Do you think I should be concerned at the chance of pregnancy or do you think I should try Plan B? 

Post # 99
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Blushing bee

SO has never used a condom. I am on the pill and have been for 6 years. I used to not let him finish in me but now that we’ve moved in together and marriage is more on the table,  I let him finish. We’re kind of in the “if it happens, it happens” frame of mind. It’s something we could handle now if need be.

But no scares here!

Post # 100
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2005

msnell:  The history of ‘The Pill’ is that at first it contained higher doses of hormones. That changed as side-effects and risks to patient health were encountered. The Pill in general use today and especially for the younger woman (with the odd exception for certain challenging patients) contain reduced amounts of hormones. A consequence is that in order to try and achieve the maximum amount of protection (statistics show the pill to be less than 100% effective -there is no claim that it is perfect) it should be taken at about the same time every day. The other advantage of regular dosing is that it can be paired with another regular habit like late night or morning brushing of the teeth to assist with ensuring the best protection. Modern Pills are pretty intolerant as it were of irregular or worse erratic dosing, both of which will reduce the degree of protection.

To be as sure (save for complete abstinence) as you can be of not falling pregnant in or out of marriage BOTH partners can help bear that responsibility. If an unwanted pregnancy occurs the woman risks being blamed if she was the only one taking the precaution. That seesm unfair on her when additional birth control methods exist. To my mind if (and particularly a reponsible unmarried woman who is not ready to raise a child because she’s say still completing her education or she is not completely sure of her partner’s longer term committment to her and their child) the Pill is combined with condom use both partners help ensure protection/birth control. Condoms will probably mean spoiling the ‘fun’ and increased expense but if that is a burden then try the burden and the expense of raising a child. Similarly if a responsible man knowing that the pill is not perfect is not ready to father a child he can choose to use condoms and even a contraceptive foam to help maximise the efficacy of the Pill.

 

 

 

 

Post # 101
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2015

Ive been on the pill for 10 years and never had a scare. Been with my Fiance 3 years and never used a condom with him and he always finishes inside. 

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