- 6 years ago
UGH im so mad right now. maybe more annoyed than mad but…
so my (future) Mother-In-Law is totally unreasonable. ruined my engagement, etc (see previous threads about this a few months back). so me and Fiance just bought a new house about a month ago, and his family (mom dad bro sis) are on their 3 hour drive over to see it and spend the night. we spent a lot of time, energy, and money prepping for them to get here – we are still moving in, things are unpacked, we needed to buy things for their arrival.. etc.
so anyway. at 10 am Fiance calls his brother, who is with the rest of the family. Fiance ask what their ETA is as we still have lots to do and want to make sure we are home and done by the time they arrive. also, isnt that a reasonable question anyway? they say 3pm – strange, since they left at 9 and it only takes 3 hours to get here. whatever, we start getting things ready, mowing the lawn, filling the cars with gas, etc.
just now Fiance calls again, since.. it should only take 3 hours, and we’re about at the three hour mark to when they should arrive. his parents often estimate driving times wrong as well. he just calls and asks for an ETA. me and Fiance still have stuff to do, but dont want to run errands and risk not being home. his brother gives him a weird tone and says ‘why do you keep asking” and says the whole family is “talking about why you keep asking”.. and i’m SURE they think i’m bullyng Fiance into asking. for what though? and then Fiance says “because we want to know when you’e gonna get here..?” and his brother is like “ok.. just wanted to let you know everyone think its really weird…” in a very negative way
is it??? i’m always blamed for “changing FI” – but isnt asking for an updated ETA reasonable? especially when theyre always changing around the schedule and the times were odd? i almost always call my friends for an “eta” if we’re meeting up or something, and its a long commute. im just angry. and frustrated. and now i dont want to see them. theyre gonna get here soon.