(Closed) Unreasonable prenup?

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 76
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Helper bee

Bleuuugghh!  Good luck to him getting any woman to sign up for that!

Post # 77
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Sugar Beekeeper

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Speck_:  

“He’s telling you he won’t confirm if you’re his beneficiary (the most basic and important Life Planning thing) while telling you that you need to sign away your rights to any throw pillows you might buy” 

 God,  you’re  good !! I think if OP were to copy out this thread and leave it for him to read , that would be …interesting ….if only for your  comment alone!

Post # 79
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Busy bee

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dedelovely:  wow. I’m sorry it’s come to this but I think you’ve done the right thing. He clearly needs professional help to get over his first marriage and his deep rooted bitterness.

Wanting to use his will to control your behaviour to his liking? Yuck! Where’s his precious trust now?!

Stay strong!

Post # 80
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

Wow I’m so sorry it came to that however hopefully after you have had time to mourn this relationship you will see that the best thing he ever did for you is showing you his true colours before you married him. sending internet hugs you way

Post # 81
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

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dedelovely:  I’m so sorry, bee. I can only imagine how devastating it must be to suddenly find out that the person you wanted to share your life with is not at all the person you thought they were.

I know you already know this, but you have absolutely done the right thing. How could you have possibly built a partnership with this person when he has such a warped perception of what that involves? His attitude is appalling, as was that suggested pre-nup.

What are you doing to take care of yourself right now? Sending you my warmest wishes. 

Post # 82
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

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dedelovely:  you did fabulous, good for you! 

Post # 83
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

Omg. You are pretty much my hero. Guts of steel woman!!! Bravo.

 

what an asshat. Honestly. Saying that you basically need to keep in line or else you lose everything!?!? That is not only sad, it’s dangerous, just think of how he could use that to control you if you got sick or had kids and had no other way out. Good job for leaving, you are amazing!

Post # 84
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Blushing bee

You. Are. AMAZING!!!!!!!! What a hard but strong and needed thing to do! It may be hard for a bit but imagine being married to that man! Go find someone a little younger and way more fun!!! 

You seem like a lovely woman and you deserve a man who trusts you, especially when you’ve done nothing wrong in the first place!!

Post # 85
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

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dedelovely:  I can’t believe what I just read in your update!!! I’m feeling kind of torn in my reaction – on the one hand, I’m so sorry you had to go through that conversation. On the other hand, I’m cheering for you for being so direct and adept at standing up for yourself! That’s awesome you were able to do that. 

 

Your ex sounds more like a cartoon villain than a real person, TBH. I hope he knows that.

Post # 86
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Honey bee

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dedelovely:  I’m so sorry, bee. But I’m proud of you for walking away. He sounds like a selfish ass, and making your pay for his ex wife’s wrongdoings is not fair. You’re much better off without him. 

Post # 87
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - Hogarths, Solihull

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dedelovely:  wow, an utter dick to the very end!

Sounds like you dodged a bullet there! Big hugs and here’s hoping you find someone who values your worth 🙂

You sound like an amazingly strong woman and I’m so glad you had the courage to end things 

Post # 88
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Worker bee

You are very brave, and have saved yourself from a life of misery, by having a bit of paper waved under your nose as every time you ‘don’t behave’ it’ll be there haunting you and having him smirking. I’m glad you’re a strong woman, who stands up for what is right!

Well done girl, you deserve so much better xxxx

 

Post # 89
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Blushing bee

You are so friggin AMAZING!!!! 

Post # 90
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Blushing bee

Good for you! You deserve better!

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