Unreasonable requests – family edition

posted 1 year ago in Beehive
Post # 2
55 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

My FH’s friend (who I don’t like at all), asking us if he can bring a woman he may have cheated on his wife with to our wedding… They’ve been together all of 3 weeks and he split up with his wife 24 hours prior to the request……

Post # 4
125 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

Omg hahaha. Ok I don’t feel so bad about my slightly annoying inlaws now! 

Post # 5
57 posts
Worker bee

My favorites so far – all from my future sister in law:

– When will you be leaving your reception?-  I dunno, when it’s over?

– Please make sure to have plenty of whisky at the reception. Otherwise, I’ll bring my own.

– What colors should I wear – for the fourth time after us telling her it doesn’t matter, she’s not in the wedding party. And the same for her kids. 

– Can my daughter bring her friend to the wedding? – Neither one of us have even met the girl. 


Post # 6
50 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2019

Maternal Grandmother of the Groom: Can you reconsider your destination wedding and get married at home? (we had paid and booked things and had at this point for months)

Friend of the Bride: “Can the boy come too?” – only been dating for 2 weeks and never met him before

Future Mother-In-Law: Can you have a second wedding ceremony at home so that people who couldn’t go to your real wedding have something to see?


Post # 7
511 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

tchelsea :  sounds a lot like mine! 

The most memorable one I got was from a friend regarding her “plus one”, and I use quotes because she didn’t really have one to begin with. Friend and her now ex boyfriend were together for close to 10 years and were living together, so the invitation was addressed to Mrs Jane Smith and Mr John Doe at the same address. They RSVP that yes they will both come. 

Come to find out at my bachelorette, Jane and John actually recently broke up but didn’t tell anyone, and are still living together but Jane also has a new boyfriend?! Weird, but whatever works for them. 

Well Jane then asks “can I bring my new boyfriend as my plus one instead”? But the problem was – Jane never got a plus one, they were invited as a couple. It was SO awkward for me because I had to email John and ask if he still wanted to come and that she wanted to bring someone else. He said of course, he is our friend, and that he did want to attend if he could, to which I respond that he was originally invited and of course he has priority over anyone else. So then Jane asks if there is room to add on another person and they can all sit in the same table, because after all her and John still live together and he is friends with the new boyfriend. How awkward, you don’t get two dates lady! I had to graciously tell her we did not have the budget for an extra person, which was true but also my way of not dealing with the drama. 

Worst part about it all? Jane and her new bf broke up very soon after. Not even sure when, but a friend saw her at Coachella with someone new a few months later. Thank goodness I didn’t fork over $200 extra for his plate.. 


Post # 10
688 posts
Busy bee

alfalfasprout10518 :  Soo… I honestly don’t think either of these requests are unreasonable, we did both for our wedding.

For the shuttle:

– People still drove themselves (or found a way) to the reception. We then offered a free shuttle home to anywhere within a certain distance from the reception site. People just left their cars and got them the next day if they drank to much.


For the Photo

– This only took 5-10 minutes… We had it announced before the ceremony even began that we would be doing a group photo immediately following the ceremony. We then had one person remind everyone after the ceremony to gather for a photo. We got everyone in and I love the photo. We had 80 people

Post # 12
97 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

My fiance’s aunt asked for a special dance (implying a dance like the groom and his mom, bride and her dad, first dance) in honor of my fiance’s grandma who passed away at least 20 years ago. Making this extra fun was her basic estrangement from her parents after stealing money and medication from them, only being around my fiance during his childhood when her and her husband needed money from my future in laws for drugs, and her general insanity. This was all in a voicemail where she said she was going to look so good at the wedding lol.

Post # 13
738 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2020

alfalfasprout10518 :  My Future Sister-In-Law keeps bringing up that she wants her best friend invited along with her boyfriend. We told her that she gets a plus one and can use it how she wishes and if she wants more than that it’ll be $133 per person which she is welcome to cover. Always shuts her up. 😉

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