Unreasonable requests – family edition

posted 1 year ago in Beehive
Post # 46
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Bumble bee

My mum demanded a little “reserved” sign on her seat at the front of the church. 

She finally backed down lol. Like, people know not to sit in the front row mum. Seriously. 

xo

Post # 47
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3891 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

My mother… who should not surprise me because she is perpetually horrible to me… 

Got super upset, like yelling at me, because I was buying another wedding dress for my 2nd wedding. She said “I don’t understand why you’re buying another one, why can’t you just wear the one you already have? That one was expensive!” Yep, she wanted me to wear the same dress as my first wedding. 15 years later. A dress that I stashed in a shed for most of a decade before throwing away. A dress I PAID FOR that cost all of $400. She was pissy the whole time I was shopping for a dress because she thought I was being wasteful. 

She called me to tell me she was going to wear the dress she wore to her junior prom in 1976 to my wedding. It was floor length, baby blue, had bell sleeves, and was made out of flannel. I know everybody says moms should be able to wear whatever they want… but I made her go to Dillards with me and choose a dress from this century. 

She hates me, so I don’t know why any of this was surprising… 

Post # 48
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733 posts
Busy bee

jackjackattck :  Omg, I can’t believe someone would ask for their kid to have an adult meal. That’s a new one for me. 

ladyartichoke :  Love the special requests for just one guest. Our venue only let us pick 3 beer options and my mom wanted to use one of those for a specific beer, that isn’t all that popular, just because it’s what one of my uncles drinks. So 2 beer choices for the rest of our 90 guests, and one beer for this one guest. Luckily our venue worked with us and let us have 5 beer choices, ending Beer Gate 2018 (as my husband called it).

Post # 49
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360 posts
Helper bee

My great aunt called my mother to ask if she could invite her in-laws to my first wedding. I had never met these people and they are not relatives. Apparently they were going to be in town and she wanted to keep them entertained that evening. 

I found it hilarious and said I didn’t care but I still cannot believe that this woman invited her in-laws to my wedding. And that they came!!!! 

Post # 50
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360 posts
Helper bee

desertgypsy :  lol my friend’s mom showed up at a wedding in my friend’s college graduation gown (like the actual robes) which she had belted!!!!! Fortunately it was not my friend’s wedding. But still….what is with crazy moms???

Post # 51
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733 posts
Busy bee

hemiandhighheels :  This (sort of) happened to me once. My parents and I were visiting my brother and his wife (a trip we had planned for a while). A couple of weeks before our trip my brother just casually says, “(Wife’s sister) has decided to get married the weekend you’re in town, so we’ll all be doing that on Saturday.”

We were so uncomfortable with it. We weren’t even clear if they invited us when they heard we would be in town or if my brother and sil just said they would be bringing us along. It was a lowkey wedding (bride’s third marriage in 5 years to someone she only knew for a few months in her parents’ backyard) but we still felt sooo uncomfortable the whole time. 

The kicker was my brother (actual invited guest) was late and we (not invited guests of his) sat through the ceremony alone. Fun memories. 

Post # 52
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32 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: August 2019

oh wow, that sounds like mountains of work are still needed to be done for your wedding ._.

Post # 53
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77 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

My mother, at 4pm the night before the wedding… ‘my glasses don’t match my dress, so please can you make a second, larger print seating plan so I don’t have to put them on?’ 

FFS… you KNOW where you are sitting… we are STANDING in the reception venue, having been to set it up, your chair is RIGHT THERE!!!!!!! 

Thankfully my fabulous bridesmaid managed that situation for me…! 

Post # 54
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4662 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

bostonbee2018 :  lol Beer Gate. On the one hand I understand on the other I’ve got so much to do that it just doesnt matter. We’re having a meal choice I don’t care for, maybe I should change it? Oh wait, that’s right, there is an alternative. 

I did have my mum request a change to the schedule because she wants to go to her own hair salon (not unreasonable but there are closer options or we can get someone to come to us, my bridesmaids and I are doing our own hair) and because of it’s reatrictive opening times the only slot we can get her makeup done in is beforehand (she has an hours drive plus however long for her blowout). She says she doesn’t want her makeup done before her hair but the only other choice is for me to switch places with her. Given it’s my wedding I’d rather go last so it’s fresh. I know that’s super selfish of me. I have a minimum number of people and she’s paid for so can’t even cancel at this stage.

Post # 55
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4662 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

augustbee2018 :  eurgh, wow. That sounds like the sort of thing my mum would do.

Post # 56
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77 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

ladyartichoke :  we giggle about it now, but at the time I was at peak stress levels and almost exploded!!

Fabulous bridesmaid that she is managed to source cobalt blue framed reading glasses for £3 in a supermarket… 

Post # 58
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745 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2019 - City, State

My Best man has planned his wedding for 3 weeks to the day after mine. He is insisting that the groomsmen buy $500 suits. He wanted to make it ‘worth the price’ by insisting we could use the suits for both of our weddings. However he want to choose the suit, color and style to match his wedding style/colours and not mine. I told him no, and he has ignored me and is assuming we are using his choice os suit for both weddings. UGH!

Post # 59
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66 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2018

alfalfasprout10518 :  

My mom: “Can I invite my friend that I catch the train with to work to your wedding? I told her all about it…” (I have never met her or knew about her lol)

A friend: “If I don’t have a girlfriend by the time of your wedding, I’m bringing _____ as my plus 1” (his friend I don’t even like)

 

Post # 60
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4662 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

happyjuju :  I know right.  Like it’s growing in popularity in hipster circles where we live and it’s good if you’re driving (my favourite is called Nanny State by Brewdog) but I wouldn’t expect it.

augustbee2018 :  Super-bridesmaid.

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