- 8 years ago
- Wedding: November 2011
I love my bridal party, I really do. Otherwise I would not have asked them to be stand up with me at the church and help me and FH celebrate our day in November of 2011. That being said I did ask each of them more than a year in advance of they would honor me by joining us and they all said they would love to. That being said I understand that no ones live revolves around me but mine and I’ve been very aware of other people schedules and lives. I assured each of the people in the wedding party that I would always give them plenty of notice when it comes to wedding related activities and would always be as flexible as possible when it came to times and fittings etc. In any event my gripe is the lack of communication I am getting from the girls, well all but two of them anyway.
This is the first message I sent them in January 2011:
I hope this message finds you all well. First things first, I want to thank you all for participating in our wedding and appreciate very much your support and assistance. With all the excitement underway (for myself and Emile at the very least) it is very easy to get caught up in the wedding whirlwind. I wont be subjecting you to any of that if I can avoid it (wink wink).
We’ve all come to a consensus on the bridesmaid, and maid/matron of honor dresses. If you haven’t already bought it, I would suggest waiting until the Victoria’s Secret semi-annual sale in June July. As time gets closer I will keep you in the loop as to any coupons or discounts I may come across (I’m always on the lookout for the best deal). In regards to shoes and accessories I’m pretty open, I don’t really have a set “look” in mind, where you will be wearing black I’m assuming at our first get together we can go over ideas and preferences. My goal is to make sure that the process is as painless and enjoyable as possible for all of you as it has been so far for me.
(Example: Instead of bouquets, I was thinking of getting you all a black clutch bag and attaching a spray of orchids to it, you all can remove it after the festivities and reuse the bag at a later date.) Who doesn’t need a black clutch? lol
That being said, I’m getting into the organization process and was wondering when would be a good time for all of us to get together to go over some preliminary stuff. My schedule is wide open and I will do my best to accommodate anyone who cant make it for whatever reason. I’m even open to a skype session or email communication if that easier for any/all of you.
I was hoping to all get together at some point in late March or early April at a mutually convenient location. Please let me know what works for you and we’ll get the ball rolling.
Thank you again, in advance and many times over for being a part of this. Please don’t hesitate to call or email if you have any concerns or questions, I’ve included my contact info below.
I thought that was pretty straight forward, non-demanding. It took literally two weeks to get a response. Mind you this is on Facebook which they are all on everyday, so its not as if they didn’t get the message.
Second Message sent yesterday:
I’d like to get together over April vacation if possible to discuss dress options and other wedding related foolishness J
I understand that some of you may be uncomfortable with the more fitted version of the dress if that is the case then by all means we can definitely go with the softer more flowy version. I also understand that it’s difficult ordering a dress without trying it on and site unseen buying is not everyone’s cup of tea. Please keep in mind I’ve been keeping track of prices and styles at David’s Bridal, Macy’s, and Lord & Taylor. I am open to suggestions after all you will be wearing the dresses and I want you to feel as comfortable as possible.
If you would like to get together and go dress shopping I am all for it and will make whatever arrangements are necessary to my schedule to accommodate the trip. Who doesn’t love shopping?
I have Monday the 18th off as well as Friday 22nd. I picked up a part-time job on weekends so I can still do Saturday or Sunday nights even anytime after 6:30pm. After April vacation I’m free any afternoon after 4pm if that suits you better. Just let me know.
Please get back to me at your earliest possible convenience, if either of those dates work for you, if not I was also planning on taking a couple of days off that week anyway. So if we cant meet as a group I can definitely do one on one or even get together with you in groups. I’m flexible either way.
Thanks so much for your responses. I would have texted but this was just too long to get onto one phone message.
One response so far, I sent a text today to just remind them to check their FB messages as it was too long an original message to text. I’m overreacting, I know I am. But I still find it aggravating that I am going out of my way to be as accommodating as possible and I cant even get a simple response or call. I’m not even getting into the fact that neither my Matron or Maid of honor have in anyway asked if I needed help or even called, texted or messaged in regards to anything, wedding related or not. I understand that people have lives to lead but is it too much trouble to be courteous and at least message back acknowledging that you got the communication at least?
How can I get them to be more responsive or should I even bother? I feel like scrapping the whole wedding party all together. Less hassle and having to depend on anybody. Thoughts, advice, opinions would be greatly appreciated. Thanks you guys.