(Closed) Unresponsive Bridesmaid- what to do

posted 9 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery

Hmmm that is a tuffy :-/
Has your fiance tried asking his mom what is going on with her?

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

I have had this problem before as well, both being a bride and being a maid of honor for someone else. I’m sooo sorry you are having difficulties with her.  It may seema  little underhanded but what I did is had someone completely different contact her–like her mother and relay the message that we had tried to reach her and were worried about her and wondering if she still wanted to be involved since things were starting to pick up and we needed her repsonse.  Maybe if it is someone she does not expect to discuss wedding stuff with her she may pick up the phone.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I second Ms. Frenchie’s advice. Get his mom involved!

Post # 6
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

HA! Try not being able to get in contact with a Bridesmaid or Best Man when the Bridesmaid or Best Man dress needs to be picked up and the wedding is less than 3 weeks away! Phone calls, texts, e-mails and no response. I finally got the dress myself and went over to her house unannounced. Turns out she is knee-deep in babyland (has a 4 month old) – which, IMO, is no excuse for not getting back to me over the course of several weeks. Then it turned out she really didn’t respond because she can’t afford the dress (only $42!). So I told her that I paid for the dress and not to worry about it. I have already bought her jewelry, flowers and dress, now all she has to do is show up for the rehearsal and the wedding. Now is is complaining the dress is too loose (just around the shoulders), but earlier she had bragged how her Mother is an expert seamstress. Too bad, if she had responded honestly about her situation in a timely manner, the dress could have been returned and replaced, but with the wedding 16 days away, there is no longer time and I am not worrying about it!

Post # 7
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Helper bee

I would let his Mom know asap….. and say it apologetically "I’ve tried to text and call ____ but haven’t made contact, has her cell phone number changed?"  

Then the mom can make a choice as to how much she wants to get involved…..and take your lead there.

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