(Closed) Unresponsive Bridesmaids

posted 7 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What would you do?
    Suck it up and pay the deposits again-After all they are YOUR guests : (1 votes)
    6 %
    Tell them the situation and have them pay the entire price-deposit and all : (16 votes)
    89 %
    Kick them out of the bridal party--just have one BM : (1 votes)
    6 %
    Cry and sulk in a corner...then ask your mom to help out... : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
    Member
    635 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    When was the new date set? It sounds like the girls didn’t want to pay $40 for a bridesmaids dress for a wedding that wasn’t happening (when it time to pick it up). I can’t blame them there. I certainly wouldn’t kick them out of the bridal party for it.

    Post # 6
    Member
    5886 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: October 2010

    I would send out an email and follow up with a phone call.

    ” Dear Bridesmaid or Best Man. I am honored you have agreed to be in my wedding. However, I’m wondering if you still want to take part. If you have changed your mind, please let me know. If I don’t hear from you in a few days, I will assume you would like to step down.”

    Get their responses, if they want to still be in. Then I would say

    “I’m so glad you still want to be in the bridal party. However there is a problem. Since you didn’t pick up your dress in a timely manner, they probably have been sold to someone else. This means you will have to pay for a new dress in it’s entirey. we were able to pay for the deposit previously, but now are no longer able to do that. Please contact XYZ store and place an order ASAP. “

    Post # 7
    Member
    673 posts
    Busy bee

    If they had any idea on the rescheduling, or even if they didn’t, they should have talked to you. I mean it wouldn’t take much to flat out ask whether or not it makes sense to pick up the dress if they still weren’t sure on your wedding plans.

    Moving forward, I would suggest asking if they still have any interest in participating as a member of the bridal party. If they say yes, then explain the dress situation. It doesn’t have to be a lecture, but you really don’t have to apologize for anything, either.  It sounds like you did your part to keep them informed.  If they say that paying the full cost of the dress is a deal breaker, then say you understand and appreciate that they did consider standing with you.

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