(Closed) Unresponsive bridesmaids…..Seriously why is it so difficult to say hi? Vent.

posted 2 years ago in Bridesmaids
Post # 2
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Blushing bee

Maybe your bridesmaids don’t have the desire or energy or time to meet each other and try to all become friends. They really just need to be able to work together on the days surrounding the wedding, right? 

Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I think it’s unrealistic to expect that you can essentially force your friends to bond with each other, and it’s going to work out.

Post # 6
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2018

akshali2000 :  Do you have a very large bridal party? Also, do they have demanding jobs/planning their own wedding have kids? 

I do think it is odd that they can’t say “hi” and introduce themselves but I also know, as a past bridesmaid, that sometimes brides forget we have our own lives outside of the wedding. I would imagine when it starts to get close to your wedding they will perk up a bit. Maybe ask the girl you are closest with what her take on all of this is? Maybe they feel like they are being forced to be friends. I have a relatively small party, 4 bridesmaids and my sister is my Maid/Matron of Honor. None of these people are from the same group of friends and I am not trying to force them to all get to know each other, I believe it will happen naturally as the wedding progresses. 

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

akshali2000 :  I’ve been a bridesmaid and am married.

My BMs knew each other beforehand (my sister and my two best friends), so they talked to plan things like my shower, but that was it.

In every wedding I have been in we talked as needed, but no one was going out of their way to make new BFFs.

Post # 8
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Buzzing bee

akshali2000 :  I get what you’re saying and trying to do, but honestly– they’ll all “get along” well enough during your wedding weekend. I’ve been in a ton of weddings, some where I knew no one and some where I knew pretty much everyone in the bridal party and it all worked out the same– which is, it worked out fine.

If after 1-2 attemps people aren’t biting, don’t try and force it. 

Post # 10
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Blushing bee

My SIL sent all the bridesmaids (myself included) a group text. I was literally the only one to introduce myself and say I’m excited to meet everyone. I don’t think you’re asking for a lot. I think people just don’t have a ton of manners.

 ETA: I don’t think anyone is expecting bridesmaid to be besties. And we all have busy lives. But a simple introduction, “Hi My name is __ and I look forward to meeting everyone” is really not that hard.

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

akshali2000 :  I just never worried about “bonding” with other BM’s. If we were already friends then great, if not then– I was polite, had fun, met people at the events and ended up having a good time, it was awkward or anything– but I wasn’t really getting to know them beforehand to bond specifically for a wedding

Post # 13
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Bee Keeper

You don’t need to “bond” as bridesmaids lol. They are probably never going to see each other again, they don’t need to be BFFs with each other. You tried, they didn’t bite, so I would stop forcing it. 

Post # 14
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

You did your part and they now have each others phone numbers/emails/Facebooks. Just sit back and a few months from your wedding, they will start talking to each other and planning any parties they plan to.

Post # 15
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Busy bee

If they want to bond, they’ll bond! If they don’t want to then that’s okay too 🙂

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