- 7 years ago
- Wedding: May 2011
My FH and I got engaged almost a year ago and we are getting married in 20 days! I asked my friend (who was my roommate at the time) to be a bridesmaid. For a while, she was really excited and helped me answer my wedding questions (she was married before). We moved to a new apartement in January and she was going to stay with me until right before the wedding. All of a sudden, she up and moved in the beginning of March. She didn’t tell me until about 3 days into her move and it was through a text. I understood that she got a great deal, but I was hurt and upset that she didn’t tell me in person. She also didn’t pay her part of her last power bill, which I didn’t find out until the new month was due and saw her amount was past due. It took a week of texts from me and one from my fiancee to finally get her to pay it; she also came up with a pretty conveinent excuse as to why she hadn’t paid it before. My Maid/Matron of Honor had been planning my wedding shower for yesterday and she never received an offer of help or even an RSVP from this Bridesmaid or Best Man. She sent her a text asking if she was coming. About 45 min into the shower, the Bridesmaid or Best Man texted back and said she was going to try to come. About 15 min before the shower was over, she said she wasn’t coming. She didn’t even send me an apology or any acknowledgment that she had missed my last wedding shower.
I though bridesmaids were supposed to come to at least one shower. This was the main one that I though all my BMs were coming to. All of them did, except for this one. I was so hurt, because I thought we were friends. My bridal luncheon is in 2 weeks, but I’m not sure she’ll be there. I’m so stressed out over this and I’m ready to kick her out of my wedding party! What should I do??